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originally posted by: rukia
a reply to: Profusion
I do not agree. I have plenty of male friends online because honestly they're nicer than girls and they say more interesting things on average. Not that I don't like my female friends, because I love them, but I see no difficulty in being friends with males. I'm happily engaged. My fiance is the only man who I see in a sexual way. Other men and women are just people in my eyes. If they get interested in me, I just tell them the truth and hope they can get over it. They usually do. Many come to me for advice in their own relationships. Or just to talk because they don't feel like they can talk freely elsewhere. I like to be there for people who need it. Because that's what I'd like if I was them. I know my motives, and I don't care about theirs. I'd only care if it compromised my health or safety or free will.
I reach out to plenty of people who look like they need a friend. Because I know how being lonely feels. It doesn't matter if I'm a woman or a man. It's universal. I do what I do out of love. I don't get uber close to people who I meet online if I don't know them IRL, but I am real with them. If God brings someone into my life, I know it's for a reason. So I just try to do the right thing by them. I don't expect anything from them.
Friendship--true friendship--means that neither party expects anything of the other party but simply loves them and wants the best for them. Largely, friendship doesn't exist, because people are always out for themselves. I, on the other hand, am a great friend. I have never betrayed a friend--but I have been betrayed countless times. It hurts, so that's why I have come to the realization that I shouldn't expect anything from others. I can only be responsible for me. And I like being a good friend to others in the hopes that it teaches them to be a good friend, too.