posted on Jun, 7 2016 @ 04:37 PM
a reply to: and14263
My dear - you are experiencing a terrible, terrible ordeal. You are watching your Mom pass on. Our bodies age, our minds start to weaken, systems shut
down and we know it is inevitable but it's torture to watch. As much as one may be fine with it, accept it, understand it, it doesn't make the process
easy. We remember our loved one in their prime, wonderful memories flash through our minds and we are left with the question of "Why?" Why does it
have to be this way?
I think it's our minds that can go a zillion miles a second, aware of all the possibilities, a mind full of questions and then we are faced with that
stunning realization over and over and over again: we are losing someone we love more than we can express. One is left with a bombardment of emotions
Your Mom is not in pain - that is the most important thing. You are having your goodbyes - this is such a gift, as much as most of the time it doesn't
feel like it.
I am praying for you and your Mom, if I may. I wish I could say something that would help but I just wanted you to know that you are not alone. So
many of us have experienced what you are going through and maybe just knowing this you will find our strength standing around you. And you will know
that you are not alone in any way.
I hope this doesn't sound negative in any way. At a time like this you need to do whatever your Mom needs and know that inside she doesn't want to say
goodbye to her family but she probably knows it is inevitable and so in her own mind all she wants is your happiness and to know that you are okay.
You are capable of looking after yourself and that is what all parents want. To know that their children are capable of taking care of themselves,
that they are happy and fulfilled. And so that may help during this time for you.
Cry when you need to. It's okay to be angry as well. Emotions will pour forth. Roll with them and know that it is normal. Also, I think the hardest
part is knowing what is happening and being aware that life just carries on around you as if such a life altering moment and a loss is currently
happening for you. It is a harsh time. But when you find yourself getting angry at seeing other people laughing, living their normal lives just remind
yourself that even though that is happening we are all standing around you. We are supporting you, hugging you and helping take on the crushing pain
and loss with you. You are not alone. You have arms holding you up on ATS. We are here for you.
Big hug my dear. I wish I could say something more inspiring. This is hard but just take it hour by hour, day by day and reach out if you need any