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And what if that doesn't resolve the issue? Do you honestly think no parent of a trans child has ever tried that? Do you know that some trans teens have killed themselves because their parents did and said the very thing you suggest?
originally posted by: ladyinwaiting
originally posted by: Annee
originally posted by: ladyinwaiting
A person who is intelligent, determined, brave, and has means, is able to undo it.
What? Can you please explain that?
Do you mean with hormones and surgery?
Yes. And developing a lifestyle more in keeping with what makes them happy.
originally posted by: Boadicea
I'm not so sure that's the case -- that transgender children (and particularly those with suicidal ideations) have received unconditional love and acceptance from their parents. At least not from what I've heard and read. In fact, as I understand it, many have had absolutely horrendous and abusive upbringings. Perhaps most. I cannot say all have. But there is too often a history of physical and/or emotional abuse involved. It's one reason it hurts my heart so much, because I know these kids are hurting and that I can never fully understand their pain, and that they are desperate for something -- anything -- to make that pain go away. To live and love and laugh and play and work and just feel good about themselves and their lives.
But sometimes what kids want and demand just isn't practical or reasonable or otherwise will not give them what they really need. We aren't doing them any favors if we give them what they want but it's exactly the opposite of what they need.
When Josh Alcorn voiced a desire to live as a girl, the Ohio teenager's parents said they wouldn't stand for that.
"We don't support that, religiously," Alcorn's mother told CNN on Wednesday, her voice breaking. "But we told him that we loved him unconditionally. We loved him no matter what. I loved my son. People need to know that I loved him.
"After 10 years of confusion I finally understood who I was. I immediately told my mom, and she reacted extremely negatively, telling me that it was a phase, that I would never truly be a girl, that God doesn't make mistakes, that I am wrong. If you are reading this, parents, please don't tell this to your kids," the note says. "Even if you are Christian or are against transgender people don't ever say that to someone, especially your kid. That won't do anything but make them hate them self. That's exactly what it did to me."
At 16, she wrote that she realized her "parents would never come around" and that she would have to wait until she was 18 to start any kind of medical treatment to transition to being a female.
That, she said, "absolutely broke my heart. ... I felt hopeless, that I was just going to look like a man in drag for the rest of my life."
originally posted by: Liquesence
a reply to: kaylaluv
And that's the final debate. At what point? After years and years of saying "No, *this* is who I am," should they–can they— decide for themselves. Since it's been years, why not. It's likely not a "fad".
Reminds me of This thread: Transitioning from Jack to jackie at age three
We live in unconventional times.
originally posted by: Deaf Alien
a reply to: Annee
They think people choose their orientation and identity. Why do we even bother?
originally posted by: SisterDelirium
The grass is always greener. It just strikes me as funny to think people need to express their "true self" by fighting against their own anatomy. Sex reassignment surgery is just self mutilation, really.