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originally posted by: Dark Ghost
I know it's become a bit cliche to repeat, but just like Christmas, Father's Day and Valentine's Day, Mother's Day has become overbearingly commercialised and competitive. It's all about who spoils their mother the most, and who can provide evidence of their efforts on social media and boast about it.
originally posted by: kaelci
I, too, feel a range of emotions on this day. This "hallmark day" that would be just like any other day if not the constant advertisements, postings, and general talk of mothers.
originally posted by: BO XIAN
a reply to: Bluesma
Mother had a heart of gold to help people. I don't doubt she'd have died to save me.
if i could hit i right now i would my mom died too she did her best but raised 3 boys by herself. i dont know or understand your situation but show some #ing respect for the woman that had you. sorry i might have been out of line
originally posted by: Bluesma
a reply to: confirmed
Well, she's dead now. But I feel like I was freed and able to finally start my life as my own once she died!
I could stop the hope of one day gaining her love, I could stop living as a slave to her.
That is not a sentiment that is socially acceptable at all.
I was always understanding and compassionate of her problems, but that didn't end my sliver of hope that I could "heal" her by being her punching bag, by not giving up,by forgiving and forgiving, and agreeing to take her abuse to lighten her load...
It caused me to develop the habit of actually being attracted to people who are narcissistic and cruel, because I see their internal suffering it sprouts from.
But after so many years of seeing they never heal, and despite all your compassion, all you get is abused (but it's your own fault, for not walking away), I almost want to be a supporter of the opposite approach - compassion and understanding is overrated. It should be developed, but we should be very careful not to let it drive our choices;
originally posted by: ketsuko
But no one celebrates Mother's Day with the express intent of making you or others like you feel bad. Should we stop celebrating so you can feel better? Should the rest of us spoil our day because not everyone had a wonderful mother?
I don't say anything because obviously I don't want others to think about the less fortunate in the world and feel crappy just because there are others that do.
Mother's Day isn't about you or me or our specific mothers. It's about mothers in general and the women who take the time to be mothering to other children than their own.
What about the children who never knew their mother? Is this day hurtful for them?
Maybe it's not that your problem is as much with Mother's Day as it still is with your mother and you dislike Mother's Day because it tends to remind you of that.