originally posted by: dffrntkndfnml
My condolences.I'm sorry for your loss, I can't imagine going through that.
originally posted by: youcanttellthepeople
My point is, as bad as my situation was, you've only got to look at the world around you to realise it is just an illusion, and ultimately we alone
are responsible for our actions, and what happens. There is no, in my personal opinion, magical deity in control of anything. The sooner we realise
this as a species, the better off we'll be.
Good point.I feel like collectively we may be at a crossroads as a species.I don't think anyone should shirk personal responsibility on the basis of
The problem is most people think their only responsibility lay to their personal belief... to whatever group or line or side theyve chosen, and refuse
acceptance as a responsibility to all sentient beings in a cognitive dissonance of Im right were right and all of you are wrong mentality which breeds
nothing but dischord and disharmony between sentient beings.
Society has said ok well you believe this and accept that as truth fine, but in the bigger picture there are more than just your group and the
diversity of all of that combined when embraced IS the most beautiful thing in the entire world... like a parent holding their child in unconditional
love... alive or deceased it wouldnt have mattered if they loved or hated broccoli, or identified as straight or gay. Just that they were happy and
that their choices wouldnt make life more difficult than need be, because so many people out there do no embrace anyone but themselves, their group,
their belief and try everything in the world to attack or demand that they are right... instead of just live and embrace all life in its beauty and
diversity without being and at adversity or an adversary to it or others.
Being a parent myself? and in that moment of becoming a parent... was when I first realized what unconditional love was, and here over 16 years later
Ive worked on extending that unconditional love towards everyone since I got over having him torn away from me, in her cheating and divorce, but hey
at least she was honest and set me free where I wasnt living a lie... fortunately she had a conscience where she couldnt live with a lie like that
especially knowing how deeply I care and love.
So, since not having that option to be there... once I got over the depression, I started seeing more and more compassion in others struggling over
absolute nonsense even self created or self perpetuated causing tem to suffer, in closer relationships seeing that nonsense as a side effect to bring
suffering on myself due to that instability... so having that time and time again seeing perspectives and gaining understanding no more victim, I
moved to seeing more and more in unconditional love... when I was a moderator it was like having 50000 children.
Some would come running so and so said this, even though I saw who instigated what etc its was kinda comical that grown men of all ages would act like
children in various stages of growth, and be an ahem authority figure over so many varied people all over the world in that position... I started to
think about all of their hopes, wants, desires and dreams... I saw some just after money, some just after fame, some just after attention, and on and
on but all had that same commonality that same common ground that we all shared as a grounding... custom motorcycles hell just the riding was enough
of a tie as a passion for it.
But I noticed as people rose in that money, that, fame and that power... that old axiom of absolute power corrupting absolutely, and as the industry
grew it started falling apart because the origional vision digressed away from riding motorcycles customizing them and just having fun. I could see
this not only there but started seeing it everywhere I looked... then I recalled Stan Lee's Spiderman where Peters uncle says something to the effect
of with great power comes great responsibility... and it clicked.
The titles people hold feel it gives them a sense of empowerment or a chance to feel above someone else for some reason or ration when that is wholly
irrational... the crown does not belong to the king or queen sitting on that throne, it belongs to the throne itself... the title is a temporary
position if the one sitting in that throne and wearing that crown cannot sit in that position and wish to benefit and represent all people. Because as
soon as someone starts representing themself or others instead of all people... corruption ensues, and its time to remove the crown dust off the
throne and see if someone else can be responsibile enough to represent all people that that position of power holds and be uncorrupted, the crown
blongs to that seat or title remember? No the one appointed to sit in it and have a go at staying pure or turn corrupt... and this is why society
keeps falling keeps spinning... the ego of that seat places many a person on a cross to be examined by every single person that they are supposed to
represent or be judged by for that duty to the people...
Some can hold it with grace, some can hold it with dignity, but few can hold it with integtrity... I personally dont want it nor would I take it if
offered or even demanded... been there in so many ways and senses of it already, and so has each and every individual if they remove the subjectivity
of the trope off of each and every moment and see the object beyond such distinctions called a self identifiying with an other supporting ego, its
just experience coming and going and it it all shared... that lumping of experience of a self, just a facet in a jewel self constructed precious to
ourself and others on its superfical inspection doing the same... failing to see its just one facet of one whole... but only come together as
different jewels when natural or ground to dust, and no more precious or special either way... in such one finds humility.