originally posted by: woodwardjnr
a reply to: C8H10N4O2
Being well liked can come with many advantages, whenever I'm in hospital I always do my best to be super nice to all the staff from cleaners to
surgeons. It helps, because nurses answer your bell first, you may take priority when seeing your Drs and the tea making staff know exactly how you
like your tea, so you get a good brew most of the time. In the uk where it's universal healthcare not private. Who you know becomes far more
important than finances. So it pays to be nice in the long run
But that's not being nice, that's being manipulative. You do so because it gets you things. Being someone with non judgemental compassion, does it not
for what they get in return, but for what they give.
A bit like someone who smiles at a stranger, doesn't get a reciprocal smile, and wanders off muttering how rude the world is. If your smile was
intended only to make you feel better, then you're not smiling, but fishing for feels.
Everyone lives in their own special reality. It was made just for them, and no one else. We all exist in our own world, separate from everyone else.
Our internal world, is the one we will face alone, when we take our last breath. It's intimate to us, and only us. So all that should matter is how
you live in your own reality. Respecting others is one thing, but realising that as everyone lives as king or queen in their own little domain, their
reality is not yours. It might have trees, toothbrushes, cars, windows etc.. but you cannot expect someone trapped in their own version of truth, to
consider you existing within yours. I want, I will, I must.. we're selfish, and that's ok.
So when someone makes you feel anything less than the importance you feel within your own existence, that's just them in theirs. You have no control
So it's one thing for a god loving devout crhstian woman to say "I dont care what you think of me" while worshipping an imaginary entity that demands
you care about him or you will meet fire and brimstone for all eternity once you're worm food... but it's another to see that everyone around you is
trapped in their own reality, the most important thing in their entire life, and it is no reflection on yours.
It's nice to be appreciated. But it's not nice to be used. Still, we only let ourselves be used when we are willing to give beyond what we do to make
ourselves happy, and when we seek to make others happy, under the impression it is what makes us happy.
Don't worry, be happy. *sings*