originally posted by: Skid Mark
I'm kind of proud of myself right now. I think I showed remarkable restraint. I saw in a thread where somebody (not mentioning names) said that he/she
is afraid of clowns because they're scary and wear makeup. I was so tempted to post clown pics as a reply, as well as some smart asses remark. I
actually had to fight myself not to lol.
You did well. "Reaction posting" (even in jest) is a slippery slope and very, very downhill. It just breeds negativity. So, by making the decision not
to do that, you helped the community on ATS. And yes, yourself as well.
Have I had times when I really wanted to post something snarky, sarcastic or otherwise not very nice, even in jest? No, not really. Well okay,
sometimes. But only on days that have a "y" in them.
And especially before I've had my second coffee. My guardian angel doesn't fly down to sit by me until she knows I have enough sense in my head to
listen to her gentle voice of guidance.
So quite often, I write up the post. Then I read it through, think about what this could do to the other person and to the ATS community in general.
Like, invite more of the same, so the downhill slope becomes a landslide of negativity that makes good members run away, sometimes never to return.
And I have always (from day 1!) considered what it will do to me, because I read the T&Cs when I joined. I resolved that as I liked ATS, I wanted to
stick around a while and not get my account terminated for breaking those T&Cs.
So, when I feel that indignation or whatever and write my vitriolic reply, I read it through, remember where I am, and finally listen to that little
angel saying, "Mike, don't be an idiot. You're getting all wound up over some pixels on a screen, words written by someone you have never even set
Or if I want to post something in jest but it's hurtful and I known darned well it is, then I hear, "Why do you want to hurt someone you don't even
know? What makes you think you have the right to make another person's day worse?"
So, I click "page back" to wipe out my comments and just let it go.
Yes, just let it all go.
Heck, we don't need to be getting all wound up over some pixels on a screen. Yes, we do and it's natural and very human, but we don't need to submit
ourselves to repeat doses of it. I mean, life has enough hardships already. Why give ourselves more, when all we have to do is click away and find
something else to read that is way, way better for the mind and soul?
Okay, if the person's comments are (in our opinion) a breach of the T&Cs, then alert staff and let them deal with it. But getting involved in
mud-slinging over words on a screen? Why bother?
There's a saying here that "you are responsible for your own posts". And it's very true. It also means that we are not responsible for what anyone
else writes, even if they are replying to something we wrote. We can only
be called to account for what we
do. The eight-year-old kids'
playground argument that "they started it and I was just fighting back" simply doesn't fly.
You let it go and you feel proud about that -- and rightly so. You may have saved another human being from needless hurt. That's always something
that's worth feeling good about.