4 Creative Ways to Make the MOst of the Physical Touch Love Language (From a Girl Who Knows)
(("Emma Merkas is an Australian relationships and marriage writer and the co-founder of Melt: Massage for Couples, a beautiful online video series
that teaches couples the secrets to an amazing massage. She has been married to her business partner Denis for five years, together for ten."))
My primary Love Language is Physical Touch. I’m married to an Acts of Service man. Understanding each other took awhile when we first got together,
but 10 years on, we’ve found our groove when it comes to our Love Languages.
I now know cooking him a three-course meal will make his heart soar. He knows that I love (nay, need) to cuddle up next to him on the couch while
watching movies instead of sitting two chairs over.
The Physical Touch Love Language can be a daunting one for non-native speakers of it. After all, it requires your absolute presence and attention to
But don’t despair. Here are four creative ways you can make your sweetie melt, if you know their primary language is Physical Touch. Try one today
and see what happens.
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I don't think any of the 4 items are all that startlingly new. Some may have been simply not thought of or ignored--unfittingly.
Certainly 'spooning' in bed is a powerful and important one, imho.
I think I might add some suggestions to their 4 . . .
--Holding hands in public and private can be a good bonding kind of contact. Doesn't need to be forced . . . but as it falls together more or less
naturally. If one has been raised in a 'non-touchy' family, one can learn to enjoy it and to naturally gravitate toward it. I love to see couples
80-90 years old holding hands in public.
--I like their idea of sitting next to one another in a booth at a restaurant. Maybe not all the time--but perhaps half to most of the time. Sometimes
it's important to be able to look in their eyes across the table--without having to strain one's neck side by side.
--I like giving hand and foot massages. If one doesn't know how--there are lots of ways to learn. SOME Chinese methods do well at it. Maybe they all
do but not every Chinese massage person in a mall will take the time--particularly unasked. People who work on their feet a lot really appreciate a
good foot massage--if they aren't overly ticklish or shy about it. Similarly folks who use their hands a lot can really appreciate a good hand
--It can be awkward and a strain depending on relative heights--but when comfortable, workable, natural--an arm around the shoulder is a wonderful way
to bond and connect.
--A neck, shoulder and/or scalp massage can be a welcome connection and relief, as well. Take a lesson or 2 or merely experiment and find out what
your partner most enjoys.
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I'm one of those affection-is-my-primary-love-language blokes. Which can be a . . . big loss when I'm home alone.
I hope parents--and particularly dads--are sensitive to children who have healthy affection as their primary love language. The child NEEDS such
lavishly almost as most folks need air and water. Their development will likely be stunted or mangled without sufficient affection.
I'd be interested in y'all's experiences and suggestions along these lines.
And, the book that started the 5 LOVE LANGUAGES movement is this one:
THE 5 LOVE LANGUAGES: THE SECRET TO LOVE THAT LASTS
The 5 love languages are:
2. quality time
3. words of affirmation
4. acts of service
5. physical touch/healthy affection