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originally posted by: glowdog
a reply to: MountainLaurel
it is just role-models that are imprinted in our way to think- nothing special about a man dressing like a woman or the other way around. we are a playful bunch and thats it.
in the video the children had a natural reaction: sympathy.
originally posted by: Specimen
I'm guessing it would all be a matter of preference of style for the men and what more appeasing and attractive to most females(Whatever that is),also combine genetics, upbringing, and personality. Some women like an Austin Powers Rug like chest hair, to little or none chest hair.
As for one on one fights, I'd advocate it, since it can give the brain context, but in the ring instead of street fights, where suplexing someone into pavement can be deadly, not only that might make good safe entertainment. Not only that, the concept of Honor or Fair game, or Sport won't apply to some people, that are ether very arrogant, or plain cowardly.
originally posted by: onequestion
So I've been wondering lately about culture and masculibity. Recently in another thread on suicide a member brought up the emasculation of what I can only call manliness in modern culture and I'm wondering... Is stopping people from getting into fist fights really good for us?
I know this isn't PC and it may sound crazy at first but let's take a deeper look.
There is something to he said in my experience about a man whose willing to honestly stand in front of you during a disagreement and choose to fight you one on one. I have respect for someone who will do that. I'm not talking cheap shots I'm not talking gang wars.
I think its part of being a man to get this violent aggression out of your system especially in your early 20's and its my belief that when we try to get that out of our culture we are creating even bigger problems.
Let's take for instance a community of poor people. Kids are taught violence is wrong their entire life but in these same communities we have the biggest problems of violence. It is my belief that by surpressing these NATURAL instincts in young men we are seeing an upswing in gang activity and violent outburst with guns.
I think not allowing young boys and men the freedom to scrap is having a detrimental effect on Americas youth.
Obviously i am not advocating violent but I would like to start a discussion on this topic. I can he swayed in either direction.
So let's start here and see how the conversation evolves. I may let the thread run a little.
I think its part of being a man to get this violent aggression out of your system especially in your early 20's and its my belief that when we try to get that out of our culture we are creating even bigger problems.
originally posted by: Astrocyte
This is exactly the opposite of what science, neurobiology and psychology is discovering about the human mind.
The mind is a feedback loop. If you tell yourself what you've written above, you have created an objective within yourself: to be as you just described as the ideal of being.
This way of thinking is absolutely poisonous. It is completely based in shame and the way people think. Right now, what is so horribly wrong about being self-controlled, and cognizant of the probable consequences in starting a fight. Do you know how costly it is to your brain and body? To you know what arousal of that nature does to the organism that you are?
Seriously. Is science meaningless to you? We have evidence - and you know it within yourself - that aggressive behavior ALWAYS provokes aggressive behavior. Even when compelled to use it, I make every effort to signify to the other person that I care about them.
Nothing is intellectually defensible in this position. It is nothing but a discomfort with a position you have unconsciously taken on from the culture around you: it is shameful to prefer peace and good relations than to "protect your pride". Do you honestly not see how haughty and pretentious this concern is? Your "self" is a function of the people you live and relate around, It is totally ecological, just like everything else that exists.
Yet here you are, distressed about something that represents a sign of cultural progress - a progress, because aggression is a feedback loop that has negative implications for other people not immediately involved. And what about habits of mind - or brain? Do you think doing things like this has no unwanted consequences? Heres a notice: you don't control your temper if you can't actually control it. If you give yourself "license", this is just self-delusion, something you needingly confabulate to make sense of the way you feel (shameful, pathetic, "unmanly", as you put it) and the cultural environment relevant to your own development has no doubt scaffolded some of this aggressiveness.
Anyways: point to be learned:
You are not weak to care, or to think in mindful and considerate ways about others. However, if one feels shame when associating with these ideas, this is because other ideas - opposite and antithetical ideas - relevant to your own development occludes the sanity of a caring and nurturing attitude by focusing you in an obsessively aggressive way on the "patheticness" and other horrible features of what you call the "masculation" of the man.
I use to think just this way in the past too my friend. But i grew - and I grew only because as a self-conscious being, I realized that I couldn't pretend like I didn't know things about myself that I didn't like and so struggled to hide. I later learned of the scientific term for this process - dissociation - and so began to use it more and more in my own thinking.
Don't dissociate the feelings of hurt that underlie shame. Shame arises when another person fails to acknowledge or know us in a caring way. We "push" away sensitivity and signs of sensitiity, and indeed, we aggress against those ideas because they remind our brain of the feelings we felt. So the whole aggressive spiel is just a reflexive habit, unconsciously cultivated by a mind that has forgotten its intrinsic relationship to a past pain of not being known in a way that would have felt very good.
This vicious patriarchal ethic HAS TO GO, and will go. The whole need to dominate - to lord power over other people - is the source of all the $hit - vultural hedge funds who feast on the debts of poor people - or said differently, 10 or 15 people depriving 3.9 million people of necessary infrastructure like hospitals and teachers (current Peurto Rico situation). Runaway capitalism breeds markets for all sorts of evil things - like prisons needing criminals and military industrial factories needing wars, or pharmaceutical companies needing sick people. Do you see what the obvious evil here is? The selifhs greed of a few people maintaining and sustaining a lot of unnecessary grief, suffering and evil in the world.
No thank you. As said, this moronic way of seeing this is a function of a) being hurt, knowing the hurt, and reflexively defending against the hurt; b) living in a society, particularly in American conservative areas, where this obnoxious ethic holds ground (quite literally, in the ape vs. ape kind of way) and so everyone "forces" everyone else, in a circular process, to support the 'general meaning' that is important to the group; in this case, that men are being "emasculated".