- You know, I had a thought on your situation, strangely enough, while I was out running with my dog.
(don't ask me why then, my thought processes tend to clarify when I am exercising)
The thought was-
Every time I have gone through a change in my life that was very big, personally,
A huge step in personal growth,
I became terribly aware that I would become a totally different person.
(Even if it is a very positive change, like letting go of an old fear, or gaining self confidence)
and that means that my current relationships with others would no longer work.
We would no longer be able to relate in the same ways we always have, the bases of how we interact would be destroyed.
That scared the heck out of me every time! I have actually declined opportunities, or chosen to hold on to certain insecurities, habits, or behaviors,
simply out of fear of losing the relationships that are important to me.
The times I was able to decide that the step was more important than all other relationships, and embrace that it might be the end of them,
that isn't what happened!
To my surprise, in each of those cases that I can remember, our relationship transformed into a new kind, and was better.
Reflect on that possibility- look at your past and see if there wasn't similar moments, when you were afraid of changing for fear of losing your loved
ones, and did any way.
(hearing Stevie Nicks singing Landslide in my head)
edit on 21-4-2016 by Bluesma because: (no reason given)