ATS is such an awesome place. I get my news, entertainment, laughs, cries.. I get SO much out of ATS.
Unfortunately for me, that can also get in the way of other projects and priorities. Am I addicted to ATS? Yes, but it doesn't actually impact my
professional life or my health (maybe my mental health sometimes
haha), but it does take time and energy and I have a lot of different things
going on that I should get re-focused on.
I should've saved the "comedic relief" for later in the thread (even though I'm not really funny), anyway here's where it gets dark :/
Right now (and for the past 2 years or so) one of my siblings is struggling severely with alcoholism, even after doing full treatment program (and
being a leader, role model for others, etc.) for several months, he came home without structure and has been let go from work and now he is worse than
he was before he left. The sibling who is struggling is also a twin, so the other twin has been really taking a lot on himself and they are both a
mess from this.
Yesterday my dad went to drop him off at his "relapse-prevention meeting" in the morning, but unfortunately he skipped and went to the liquor store
instead. There is SO much else that has happened in the last 2 weeks but I'm not going into the rest of it.
Now my whole family is trying to find a time to meet (they live all over the place between 2 diff. states) so we can look at resources, treatment
options, etc. to help my sibling try this a 2nd time.
Our family is committed and supportive but we need to find the resources to help my sibling AND figure out a situation for when he gets out. A halfway
house/clean living situation does NOT sound like something that would work for my sibling so we're worried about what happens even after he goes back
to treatment (I guess we'll cross that bridge when we get there). Everyone is just real worried, we don't know if we'll be able to get a solid,
structured plan for him to succeed and beat the bottle.
On top of all this my YOUNGER sibling who is seriously disappointing me, is in a terrible relationship, is going to be getting cosmetic surgery
(which one of my parents is paying for), and is not even involved with everyone else. My significant other is actually roommates with this sibling and
tells me all the time how they fight at 1 AM yelling and nothing ever changes. They're being so selfish.. this sibling even took MULTIPLE checks from
my parent for this surgery, blew through all the money and has the audacity to ask for another check.
Meanwhile I'm working 100 hours a week and struggling just to maintain my own mental health, and it is just a total mess. I've questioned continuing
with this job because of the demand and toll it's taking but giving it a chance to finish projects I've committed to and see if it improves. Outside
of work it seems like my whole family is falling apart, and I'm in another state working my life away and trying to see them whenever i can. The
past TWO times I've driven up there my brother didn't make it either time (even when we planned it as a big family breakfast for his coming home from
I've had some really great heartfelt talks with him- I'm 8 years younger but I also had addiction problems for years (jail, court, hospital visits,
etc.), I was able to escape it but the temptations are still there - but I was able to stop. I have a lot of knowledge in the subject of addiction and
how to combat it, but it's different for everyone and when I talk to them about it they keep saying "yeah but you were young when it happened, etc."
(which isn't true, I was struggling with opiates and poking myself at age 24, although I did have other drinking issues much earlier on). It's so
frustrating because I know what I'm saying resonates with him, and he understands and knows it, but his body is telling him he needs alcohol to
survive and nothing seems to stop him once the urge takes over.
I feel like a strong person, and I know my family members are too. But I'm really disappointed in my selfish sibling, and just heartbroken for the
I know everyone has family/life problems. It's not like me to get gooey on a thread and write about stuff like this on an open forum.. to be
Perfectly Honest ATS IS my social life (other than work and seeing famcore when I can). So many intelligent, wise people with life experience and
I'm not looking for answers or sympathy from anyone, but wanted to share this because I've been real active on here and that's about to change. I
need to figure out what I can do to help things improve.
your friend FamCore
edit on 20-4-2016 by FamCore because: (no reason given)