Look at it this way, you're currently volunteering your time without monetary payment to fullfil the needs of other people because you find it
fullfilling to do so, a personal relationship can be seen the same way. If you ask her out and she accepts both of you are volunteering your time to
be together. That is when you discover what her needs are; you already know your needs. A relationship forms when both find it personally fulfilling
to fullfill someone else's needs.
If both of you are volunteers then you have a schedule to follow. That involves commitment. This is commitment to your time spent.
A relationship works similarly, but you reveal in advance you don't want a commitment of your time spent with each other.
Just note that if you feel awkward asking the opposite sex to go out some where with you, in your case to lunch, and it is not a slight generalized
social anxiety that you're feeling which appears to be the norm for many people now days who have no sexual intentions, then you're awkwardness and/or
hesitation in asking her out is to have sex at some point because you already spend some time with her as nonsexual colleagues. You can figure out
where you are in your mind realizing the difference.
Because moral work that involves being paid or forfeiting payment and volunteering does not involve a sexual relationship to maintain it's existance,
just as nonsexual friendships exist, if your end game is sex, then don't ask her out.
Since moral work paid or not, and moral friendships exist because they have been proven to be more functional and sustainable time and time again
without requiring anyone to have sex, that work ethic model which nonsexual friendships follow, should be applied in your case because you both work
If you just desire to be her friend, then by all means proceed. Many males and females who work together are nonsexual friends that eat lunch
together. Being a friend to someone requires commitment as does working for an employer or acting as their own. Bur if your end game is sex without
comitment to being a friend and investing emotional time required of friendships because you fear being a slave to someone who you had sex with, the
opposite of freedom which you say you don't want to lose, reveals that you are concerned only about your needs and are hoping she wants to just
fullfill her sex drive as you may. And that's a gamble that usually ends up not being the case.
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