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originally posted by: DAVID64
I have no idea why, but 7 out of 10 post pictures with their lips puckered.
I want intelligence, beauty, personality, the whole works and I'm willing to wait for it.
I would hate to be trying to date at my age. I'd most likely just make a life for myself on my own.
That's something I've always wanted to ask a woman. Do "you" think that women go for a bit older guys, because they're looking for maturity and reliability? Because "you" are tired of the guys who bar hop, strut and preen every night? Are "you" just tired of the whole "look at me" scene and want to settle down with a man who knows what he wants?
originally posted by: DAVID64
a reply to: intrptr
That's something I've always wanted to ask a woman. Do "you" think that women go for a bit older guys, because they're looking for maturity and reliability? Because "you" are tired of the guys who bar hop, strut and preen every night? Are "you" just tired of the whole "look at me" scene and want to settle down with a man who knows what he wants?
I think that's where I'm headed. Not too much younger, maybe 8 - 10 years, but no one under 40. We just wouldn't have much in common and I'm not looking for just a "play mate" if you know what I mean.
originally posted by: AugustusMasonicus
a reply to: DAVID64
Dude, I feel terrible. Let me fix you up with the girl who cuts my hair....
originally posted by: jacygirl
originally posted by: DAVID64
a reply to: intrptr
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That 'pouty face' selfie phenomena is horrible...just don't even bother asking out any woman who endorses this. Anybody who needs endless validation is too high maintenance, male or female.
The selfie thing isn't just a girl thing. I know a couple of men in their 50's, both divorced...who facebook post at least 6-10 different selfies every day. One is always shown surrounded by a huge drum kit and various guitars that he has collected but can't play. I find it sad.
jacy
This pretty much sums it up. I think the obsessive posting of selfies, often trying to flaunt things the person has or places they've been (and other times, just how filthy their bathrooms are), mostly has to do with a desparate need for validation in what they consider (consciously or subconsciously) a failed life. It's not that their lives are actually "failed", but they perceive it to be, meaning they have very low confidence and personal happiness. Thus, they follow what others are doing, thinking they will find some kind of outside validation (likes?) Ugh...just do something useful, interesting, whatever - do something that makes you happy instead of figuring out what to do next that would be best for posting to social media.
I'm glad I'm not in the dating world anymore, but if I were, I would think most people are self-sorting themselves out of the potential mix. In a way, it's much easier to identify the 99.995% of people you absolutely don't want to be with. A single fish-face picture is a solid indicator. Well, a single one could be done ironically / to make fun of the "phenomenon", but if done "seriously", it's a far quicker and far cheaper "no-go" indicator than a few dates would be.