DISCLAIMER: I am completely on-board with the fact that birth can be a completely traumatic experience. Women have near death experiences Or
lose a child. Its a scary and emotionally charged. I do not want to take anything away from women who have truly suffered a traumatic birth. I was
hesitant to make this thread. I dont want to be labeled as insensitive. I almost posted this in the rant forum but decided this was a better fit. Yes
I have made a post about extreme feminists in the past that I got hate for.(here) So
I am prepared for the hate that may come with this
Ive seen another awareness trend lately on social media where women are using the hashtag #breakthesilence
along with the tag line BIRTH
Part of the trend is to post a photo of yourself with your traumatic birth story, more often than not it seemed to be where a doctor or medical
professional "raped' the women during their labor.
At first this seems alarming. WOMEN BEING RAPED DURING LABOUR??? WHATTT
But as I looked into it further things were not what they seemed.
While there were real cases of women suffering trauma during birth, and what seems like pretty worth while support groups for these women, not
everything seemed legitimate.
It became overwhelmingly obvious that this what not the case for all of the women jumping on this bandwagon.
In fact through my reading I saw there were a lot of women angry about being pressured into things that seemed to be pretty standard practices when it
comes to labour and giving birth, that are designed to keep both the child and mother well and alive. Furthermore I saw NO EVIDENCE of rape anywhere
in these claims.
Women feeling dis-empowered during the process, ignored, pressured into medical procedures without their full consent, feeling violated or scared is
However this is BIRTH TRAUMA
not BIRTH RAPE
These women were not raped.
Some way well have been victims of bullying or malpractice, but just using the word rape is insensitive to women who really have been raped.
Furthermore a lot of the procedures being done were in order to save either the mother or the child's life, or both. I feel bad that the mother
suffered trauma but should you just be left to die? I don't understand the logic. The doctors have a lot of experience and know what they are doing
(most of the time) and are trying to keep you both safe and alive.
Things like women having pressure put on them to have an episiotomy... urg. The doctors want to do this so that you don't rip in half. its for YOU. it
benefits no one else.
Emergency C Sections are scary yes! but they are an emergency. that is in the name. Often its because life is at risk.
I know that women have ideas of going 100% natural, or having a water birth, or whatever perfect plan. Sometimes these plans work out and are great.
However if this plan has to be altered for your safety this doesn't automatically mean the doctor has lied or wronged you. In fact you holding onto
said plans over the safety of you're child is SELFISH and why are you even having children.
I do not believe that there are people out there thinking to themselves that they should become a doctor so that they can bully and rape you during
That is ridiculous.
For the majority both doctors and midwives seem to bend over backwards for women and the safety of the unborn child. I feel like women jumping on the
bandwagon to play victim, takes away from women who may really have had some kind of egotistical doctor bullying them into things.
For the love of god, can we stop referring to everything as rape, just get bring attention to a subject.
edit on 17-3-2016 by IvyNeptune because: because im allowed