I read the whole thread just to make sure that my take on this hasn't been touched on yet.. Interesting train of comments here...
Here's the deal.. In my opinion.. This issue is about debts owed, and some peoples hesitation to make a transaction..
Sound weird? Well it is.. But think about it.. How does it make you feel when you give someone a smile and get a frown in response? It feels like
you've been jipped, and you have been in the world of human interaction..
In reality, for the most part and in most interactions with most people, you are selling your compliment, whether you like it or not.. Compliments are
worth quite a bit more than a smile.. "Thank you's" are expected to be met with "your welcome's", "love you's" create a debt by the receiver, and so
on etc.. If during one of these transactions, your compliment is met with a negative response it tells you that the person you gave it to isn't
willing to make the transaction with you.. If they accept your compliment then they owe you something equal in value..
Though it may seem strange to think of it this way, it's just the way we deal with each other.. In reality, we go about our day making these kinds of
transactions with almost everyone we come into contact with.. It's all about making trades and racking up debts with the people we interact with.. The
goal is to have everyone you know be in debt to you...
It makes a lot of people uncomfortable when you aren't close enough to them to be putting them into debt to you..
Some people don't play by the rules and go about trying to put everyone else into their debt by trying to offer up their goods(smiles, compliments
etc..) in inappropriate ways.. They're basically selling you something you don't want and expecting reimbursement.. Some others take the game too far
by throwing compliments around like candy, and some of the people they interact with eat it up so quickly and throw their own compliments around willy
nilly as well.. These people have tarnished the game with a type of inflation that causes the price of genuine compliments and similar transactions to
go way down...
For these and other similar reasons some of us get a bad taste about the whole situation and become jaded to the game..
It's a sad ordeal when some people become so jaded that it makes them uneasy when they get compliments.. The currency that can be traded in these
scenarios can be anything from money to time to equally traded comments or smiles, to even ones body.. And when someone's currency has been stolen or
taken unwillingly then it damages them towards the game as a whole..a couple of the above responses were from people who have been unfairly treated,
and forced into transactions with others who they either didn't want to trade with, or who took a lot more than what was owed..
It may or may not be a good thing to see the world of human interaction in this way depending on who you are, but if you try and see the connection,
then the game makes a lot more sense..
Here's the rub.. There are a few among us who have tossed the rules of the game right out the door..
These people toss the whole game into question for the rest of us and effectively topple the rules in every interaction they have.. They are the same
people that don't recognise the hierarchy that exists in almost every relationship.. They're the ones who have figured out how to genuinely love
others unconditionally.. They look everyone square in they eye, they admire only the good attributes of those they come into contact with and never
dwell in the negative side of anything.. These are the few who have become mentally, emotionally and spiritually mature enough to rise above the
game.. They have given up the good feelings if being owed a debt by others.. These few make the rest of us a bit uncomfortable about our place in the
game.. but they are admired and embraced by those around them. They inspire the rest of us in ways we can't comprehend.
At the end of the day, your currency and the next guys are not comparable.. There is no way to find a real balance between any two parts..
Give yourself freely in every aspect with no expectation of return..
When you become a conduit in this way, you'll find that your energy levels, positivity, happiness, as well as "currency" become an endless stream of
goods provided by the universe..
When you give a smile away, or a compliment ,or some of your time or knowledge or experience in such a way that repayment is not needed, then you
become a little bit more true to yourself and less a slave to the game.. Some times others will be confused by the fact that you give yourself away
for free.. Those close to you will try to convince you that you deserve more or that you have value that you aren't aware of.. See this as a sign
you're on the right path.. And never never get hung up trying to balance the transaction in a way that is fair for everyone.. It'll never happen..
In the transaction with the long haired girl, you effectively took back your currency, which was what she wanted.. It justified her place in the
game.. It will in turn make it harder for the rest of those who play in the long run.. Next time the long haired girl gives you the stink eye in
return for your compliment tell her that she is very lucky to have such an abundance of beauty, and that you admire her ability and willingness to
share it FREELY with the rest of us and just move along.. No need for any return..
All the great things in this world are free... All the things that make it great were given freely by others as an expression of themselves or the
beauty of the natural world around them..
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