posted on Mar, 2 2016 @ 04:57 PM
I'm a woman who has been on many, many dates procured from the Internet. I'm not even a little bit ashamed of it, because other than using online
dating to find true love, it's a great way to discover yourself. Through meeting people online I, an otherwise cripplingly shy person, was able to
become confident in my interactions with others. It was amazing.
Over about a year and a half of online dating, I accepted I would say 30% of the dates I was asked out on. As a woman, I recieve an exponentially
larger amount of offers than most men would, so my experience is likely different.
Here are some things I would suggest that men looking for women try while online dating. It may not work for every woman.
1. Spell check. Is it shallow for someone to judge you based on your grammar and spelling? Yes, in a way. But your first interaction with online
strangers is going to be text based, so make it count.
2. Start with a sincere compliment. "Hey, I noticed in your profile you enjoy writing, I think that's neat, because I'm a big reader. Maybe I can
help you edit over coffee sometime."
3. If you know you aren't attracted to a woman who messages you, feel free to ignore it. If a message you send is ignored, don't take it personally.
It's common, and while it seems discourteous, it's just how it goes.
4. If you're really looking for love, try committing to a legitimate first date...somewhere public. You can even go Dutch. Most women I know don't
"hang out" with people they don't know; but, blind dates are common. If you're just looking for a hook up, be as upfront as you can be.
5. If you aren't suffering from social anxiety, etc. that might prevent it, try to meet in person as soon as possible. It's easy for someone to come
across as amazing via the Internet, but most times a persons true colours will show face to face.
6. Reverse image search Every. Single. Picture. You owe it to yourself to be smart about cat fishing.
7. Don't get swayed by the throw away culture that IS online dating. If a person isn't for you, you'll know; that being said, if you meet someone you
enjoy, give it a little time to flower, or not. Sign out of the profile, and come back to it later. All those potential dates will still be
I could write a book about online dating, but Aziz Ansari beat me to it.