Another member inspired me to write this thread... It seems through online dating he has met his
... truly a lucky man. Especially considering he used this method to
find said person.
I will start by saying, i could consider myself a veteran of this style of meeting people... 5-6 years on and off
Honestly this is nothing to be proud of, but it seems to be the way things work these days... Gone are the days of meeting people at the local
grocery store... or just bumping into the right person. There just isn't enough trust in this world for that to happen anymore.
We as a society use the internet for almost everything...
Personally... I will not pay to meet someone. Its not that i couldn't afford to pay for these sites, but to me it makes it even more sleazy then
online dating already is... Thus, sites like Eharmoney
, Match and other sites that require you to pay before you can talk to anyone are
automatically out the door.
A quick matching system... you look at pics, select the ones you like... and if theres a match you can talk to that person. I've heard a lot of bad
things about this app... and there are tons of Bots on there trying to get your credit card, or trying to get you to sign up with another site...
I have yet to meet anyone on this app... but there is potential as much as any other place
Similar to tinder, but more options... and more things to do... There is a open feed where people can post whatever they want (mostly full of people
whining about how they can't find anyone) and a rating system... You're free to chat with anyone you like... and post as many pics as you can...
This site has its pros and cons... while being very similar to tinder, people are free to say and post what they will... That being the case, you
will get rude people on the regular... and pics/comments you won't like. This app actually amazes me because some morons actually think that asking
for sexual things works... it doesn't... unless the person you're speaking to is as twisted as the sex starved twit asking the question.
Probably the biggest site out there... Many people use it.
I have met many people from this site, good and bad... but again, the options are limited depending on what you're looking for
The problem with this site, and others im sure is that people lie... they will post pics of themselves from many years ago... and when you actually
meet them, they look nothing like the person you saw on the site. I've experienced this many times... its almost as if these people don't realize
that eventually the person you're talking to will find out what they look like.
Then there are the "Adult" sites.... Honestly, don't waste your time... they're all scams
Yes, all of these sites are based on what you post... profile descriptions matter very little because the fact is you can describe yourself any way
you wish... and many people do make themselves sound much better then they actually are... this is the net as you know... you can be anything you
want, until you have to face the music.
Now personally, what i look for is NOT online... or at least from what i've found so far...
Modesty is a thing of the past in online dating...
Many women say things like "im looking for a good guy"... Yet probably wouldn't give that person a second look...
You can say "hello" to mostly anyone on these sites... but pretty much all of the people on these sites will not even reply to a hello. They expect
you to write a novel or a bloody love story in order to get their attention, yet these same women will just say hello if they want to talk to a guy...
the double standard is pretty bad.
Though i also know what women go though on these sites... i have a few friends that tell me the horrors of online dating...
And i've made a fake profile just to see for myself.... YES it can get pretty scary
The Bottom Line
Do these sites work?
yes... they do work but again it depends on what you're looking for...
As you can see from the member that inspired me to write this... YOU can find someone online... It is very possible
IF you're looking for a piece of tail... Yes, you can find it online... but keep your expectations low
Can you find Love online?
I think its possible... but highly unlikely...
Though IF you're honest with your intentions... and willing to wade though all the nasty... (And i mean DAMN nasty)
It can happen... with a bit of luck, and a lot of patience... Perhaps great timing
But lemmie tell ya.... online dating is a scary place
edit on 2-3-2016 by Akragon because: (no reason given)