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originally posted by: randomtangentsrme
When is it bullying and when is it pointing out someone is wrong?
originally posted by: Annee
originally posted by: randomtangentsrme
When is it bullying and when is it pointing out someone is wrong?
When there's abuse. Mental, verbal, physical.
I've been called a bully too for making someone do something right. I think they know the difference.
originally posted by: ManBehindTheMask
a reply to: Annee
No rescuing children from situations that build character and teach them to overcome adversity needs to be a mindset that changes
Within reason of course. No one should be beaten on a daily basis.
I should probably thank the people that were bullies to me. And forced me out of my comfort zone to grow , learn how to deal with situations and push me to be better.
If it wasn't for situations like that to drive me I wouldn't have been as determined to rise above and prove them wrong and meet challenges head on.
Now I do things to prove to myself it can be done.
But the foundation was laid by those who tried to bring me down , to be more
I owe those experienced everything in shaping my character and my course in life
We shouldn't save children from the opportunity for growth
Bullying doesn't stop in school. The real world has it all over from work and supervisors to people on the street
Kids need to be taught how to live in a tough world not coddled and kept in bubble wrap
originally posted by: jobless1
a reply to: Ophiuchus 13
the best bullies don't get caught bullying. They hang out with other bullies.They get jobs at places that condone them being a bully and they rarely see anything repercussion for their actions! Like I said the worst bullies know how to muddy the water so when the victim tells about the bully they have plausible deniability of knowing they committed anything wrong. I had a couple of coworkers openly admit to being bullies.
originally posted by: Annee
originally posted by: randomtangentsrme
When is it bullying and when is it pointing out someone is wrong?
When there's abuse. Mental, verbal, physical.
I've been called a bully too for making someone do something right. I think they know the difference.
originally posted by: randomtangentsrme
Off and on I've been working in a collegiate setting since 2008, in 2012, I was told by a student I was a bully.
I got hired on full time in 2013. When he graduated in 2014, he told me he appreciated the time I spent with him, the skills he learned, and has since come to appreciate how much I worked with him to gain knowledge and thrive in the area he was interested in learning.
In my opinion I was never a bully, but I did tell him (and show him) he didn't know as much as he thought he did. And I made him redo things that he did incorrectly/ and tell him to stop whining about doing a job right.
When is it bullying and when is it pointing out someone is wrong?
originally posted by: ManBehindTheMask
a reply to: Annee
I'm not sure how that response applies to my post
originally posted by: Night Star
To me, there is a difference between being a bully in that situation and being fair. I once had a boss who everyone hated. She was stern and bold yet fair so I couldn't fault her. If you did your job right, you didn't have any problems with her.
originally posted by: ManBehindTheMask
a reply to: Annee
I don't think learning to handle adversity through experience is old school at all