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originally posted by: LittleByLittle
Souls should not have to go thru Amygdala fear overload just to find peace of mind so that the body start to bliss.
originally posted by: geezlouise
originally posted by: LittleByLittle
Souls should not have to go thru Amygdala fear overload just to find peace of mind so that the body start to bliss.
This is spot on.
Great suffering does NOT = enlightenment.
This popular notion is evil in it's inadvertent justification of toxic behaviors.
This popular notion actually aids a person in loving their toxic environment and loving their abuse. It is just another means to make sense of something that doesn't make sense (great suffering). It's twisted, and it's wrong, and it, too, inadvertently justifies and tolerates toxic behavior.
You do not need to experience something to know that it's wrong.
You do not need to suffer to know what's right.
originally posted by: CIAGypsyIt is because of the trauma I have faced in my life that I feel confident in being able to separate myself from the negativity, regardless of the toxicity around me. Had I never lived through that trauma, I would have never had the opportunity or ability to learn that skill.
originally posted by: geezlouise
Everything you have said is beautiful, and I get it. I really fuggin do. It all makes sense... all up until this point:
originally posted by: CIAGypsyIt is because of the trauma I have faced in my life that I feel confident in being able to separate myself from the negativity, regardless of the toxicity around me. Had I never lived through that trauma, I would have never had the opportunity or ability to learn that skill.
Funny you should save it for last.
I just refuse to join you there. No hard feelings?
originally posted by: CIAGypsy
a reply to: LittleByLittle
Sorry, but your post makes little sense to me.
I have an introverted personality. I prefer to be by myself... However, it isn't because I lack social skills or am intimidated by a social situation. In fact, I own several companies and am a classic Type A personality. I can be very aggressive and would certainly fit well within a 'Warrior' role.
Let me also add that I have been through "Amygdala fear overload" (as you put it) and still been able to find calmness and mindfulness. It is a skill that is learned...not something that simply comes naturally (although some people can control fear as a natural talent).
Likewise, mindfulness doesn't need fear as an underlying teacher to learn it. Mindfulness and emotional resiliency can be learned under many different circumstances....not just trauma or mind-numbing fear.
originally posted by: geezlouise
a reply to: crowdedskies
Also, I'm attacking a really super popular expression that we've all used a bunch of times without ever really even thinking about it.
originally posted by: CIAGypsy
a reply to: AceWombat04
Recovery is a process and it's different for everyone. Some people never recover. This is true whether we are talking about physical wounds or emotional ones.
But the quote in question "what doesn't kill you only makes you stronger" is a choice of attitude and perspective, in my experience. Success is determined by how you measure it. The same could apply to physical wounds. Let's say you have terminal cancer. You may make a choice to have a positive attitude, but it doesn't mean you will not die from cancer. So does that make your life in its entirety or from that point forward a worthless venture? I'd say no...it depends what you do with it. Attitude and perspective.
originally posted by: TrueBrit
a reply to: AceWombat04
See, strength does not abandon a person who is broken. It just manifests in different ways, and under different circumstances.
I do not see someone who is missing their legs as being weak, and I do not see someone whose every cell is screaming in agony as being weak. The chances are, that if I see someone making their way in the world, despite the damage, even if what they are doing amounts to simply existing, even if they cannot hold a job, so bad is the pain, no matter what sort it is, then all I see is someone who is balls out hardcore. I have a friend who has fibromyalgia, as does my cousin. I have another friend who, with the aid of a spinal implant is conquering a damaged nerve cluster in his spine by becoming a cyborg in all but name. My mother is slower, physically, than she was, and all the knocks she has taken have started to show.
Not a one of these individuals, on their worst day, has ever shown actual weakness. Vulnerability, yes. Sorrow, certainly. But never weakness, because weakness is not a state of body, and it is a state of mind which is not a certain outcome in those who are physically or mentally damaged. I have met physically healthy people who were weak, many more of them than those who had ailments of body or mind, and yet maintained their strength.
One of my mothers best friends is bent double with back trouble, walks with two crutches, takes twenty minutes to clamber up and down stairs to the bathroom, and barely leaves the house. She has the strength of will of a thousand axe wielding behemoths, and I would never consider her as anything other than a bastion, a tower, a deathspitting pinnacle of badassery. Why? Because for all the pain she is in, from the spine, right down to her legs, all full of water and blistered and buggered up as they are, she is also a determined, insightful, intelligent and potent human being, who has reserves of determination and willpower that dwarf those of any human being I have ever met.
She does not see herself as weak, because she is not. She is housebound, she is disabled by her pain and condition, but she is strong. These are not mutually exclusive conditions.
originally posted by: CIAGypsy
a reply to: AceWombat04
And what I'm saying is that "whatever doesn't kill you makes you stronger" is a personal revelation of inner strength. It is a personal acceptance of yourself and an acknowledgement of what YOU have been through in your life, but the ability to move past what was done to you and live in spite of it. It is an internal revelation, acknowledgement, and decision.
What others think plays no part in it unless you allow them to....
originally posted by: geezlouise
a reply to: crowdedskies
It is easier for us to live in a world where something good can come out of evil.
And our health is at risk! Also, I'm attacking a really super popular expression that we've all used a bunch of times without ever really even thinking about it. Even I'm guilty of it.