a reply to: ReadLeader
Hmmm... Not to sound mean, but you seem to be making some major assumptions here. The assumptions are so big that it's hard for me to be accurate here
without writing a really long
post. And I really don't want to do that. So let me just say this:
Women in Islam have a lot more freedom than non-Muslims think, especially when it comes to clothing, makeup, and accessories. However, specific
subcultures, families, and individual preferences will have greater effects on each Muslim woman's clothing than anything else.
As examples, Muslim women only cover their hair around men of marriageable age that aren't close relatives. And that's only after the women have
reached puberty but have not gone through menopause yet. Oh yeah, and it's also up to each woman to decide if she wants to cover her hair. The women
still get their hair styled, colored, get extensions, and the such. However, some women will choose to cover far more than just their hair, even if
other Muslims don't want it. That's why the burka issue is so controversial. If my Mom or a female Muslim friend wanted to wear one, who am I to stop
her, even though I don't personally like them?
As for gold, jewelry, makeup, and the such: LOL Muslim women can & will wear all of that and more. In fact, I'd advise you to do a quick google image
search of "hijabs", "Islamic fashion", and "Islamic jewelry". Then pay attention to the women themselves; including their makeup, accessories,
dresses, and the such. Though some women will take a conservative approach, like a Catholic Nun. Once again, it's literally up to the women (for
example, I believe Egypt just had a beauty pageant not too long ago- don't judge me lol).
As for "modern clothing", what's that? I'd actually advise you visit a mosque as an observer. I think it would absolutely shatter your preconceived
notions & stereotypes more than anything I could ever say. Because Muslim women can & will wear pants, jeans, pants suits, form fitting clothing, and
nearly anything else lol. Of course, there are also Muslim women who don't like to show off their curves or the such, so they will dress much more
modestly. And yes, Muslim women are encouraged to dress modestly. But aren't Christian & Hindu women also encouraged to dress modestly? Do they always
do it? Sometimes I think you all forget what region "belly dancing" came from...
(facepalm) I still ended up making this a long post. And I didn't even touch on everything. I'll leave you with this example. There are several
Somalian Muslim women that I've been crazy about, one I was even hoping to marry. Actual Somalian women are nothing like the stereotypes you see on
tv. What I mean by that is these women were nearly all multilingual, highly empowered in their communities, had incredible curves and they knew it!
They typically wore very colorful dresses, plus makeup, scarves, and a lot of jewelry (some wore pants as well, though dresses were the fashion). Most
didn't seem to wear much makeup, but I'm admittedly bad with noticing most makeup. And they didn't show cleavage, though their form fitting dresses &
shirts didn't need to show it in order to uhh, "get the point across".
Needless to say, even the non-Muslim men would drool over them. The non-Muslim ladies would say the Muslim ladies had long, jet black hair too, but we
guys couldn't see
. They were no different than any other women I'd met, except that they knew the Qur'an and followed tenets I believed in. The
ones I was craziest about were both physically stunning & spiritually above me. Perfect combination
I guess stuff like this is why I can't take a lot of these posts about Islam seriously. I don't mean this in a negative way towards you, but I
seriously wonder what you all think of Muslim women. It seems like you only hear the worse stereotypes and hear of the worse individual instances, all
while being completely ignorant of the normal situations. The assertions, guesses, and outright conjecture that I see from others are so far from
reality that it seems like I'm in a twilight zone. Muslim women are women. They have their own opinions, especially when it comes to their looks &
fashion. What women do you know that will just jump when guys tell them to? We Muslim men still have to jump through hoops to prove ourselves worthy
to Muslim women, just as other males do to other women.