a reply to: Sigismundus
When the pharisees were questioning Jesus he answered them. He never said divorce was illegal or impossible, He said that it is immoral to sever the
marriage bond, but not that it is impossible to do so. He does not say, “Since God insures marriage, you should never get a divorce.”Jesus does
not use the normal and technical term for divorce here, but instead uses the word chorizo, which is well translated “sunder.” In all the uses of
this word in the New Testament it never is used as an exact synonym for divorce. Jesus does not deny the right to divorce a spouse, He merely says it
is wrong to sunder a marriage covenant.
I don't think most people have a covenant that includes God in their marriage. It is more than simply getting married, there is something different
there when you are both spirit filled believers and you make a covenant before God.
Jesus said: “Have you not read, that he who created them from the beginning of creation made them male and female, and said ‘For this cause a man
shall leave his father and mother, and the two shall become one flesh’? Consequently they are no longer two, but one flesh. What therefore God has
joined together, let no man separate.”
As for me, my marriage is blessed by God, and a true Godly covenant marriage. I feel that no matter how many times my husband leaves the toilet seat
up, or how many times I might disagree on what he might like to spend our extra money on, or if sex gets slightly dull in time (not happened thus
far!), or whatever, he gets fat, or I get fat with pregnancy. None of this is cause for divorce. It is a covenant, not just something you can decide
your just tired of, and for me it would be a definite sin but I am also convinced most people do not have such a marriage, that marriage for most is
not a matched marriage between two spirit filled believers, and for them I cannot say, all I can say is for me it would be a sin to divorce. Jesus did
not say a definite no however - but rather it was an enforcement of the permanency of the marriage covenant - which I don't think most people have
when they get married.
As for a woman who divorces remarrying, the sin is not on the woman in the first place, it is on the man. The admonition was against men, not women.
Jewish men were getting married, getting bored, and coming home one day to their wife with a certificate of divorce, handing it to her and sending her
on her way. It was not women initiating these divorces, it was the men.
So the admonition was on men, the sin of adultery was on men, not women. As for a man who married a divorced woman, that is between him and God. God
forgives our sin, even adultery. We are under a new covenant, and if a man does something, and does not understand he has done a wrong, then He will
be forgiven. If he does it with full knowledge, then he needs to take it to God and the elders of the church and they will have him to understand
marriage and its meaning - repentance is about not doing something again. Not repeating behavior. In Jesus Christ anyone can repent of sin and be
This was so important to me though, that I had a covenant marriage and not a legal state marriage.
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