a reply to: Mousygretchen
No worries; it seems the road blocks that you are running into is the role of a "house wife/Frau" and if the person was not so controlling and not
letting you be you then you would have no issues. But being locked from the growth that you need to grow a family... then the container he wants to
keep you in is just too confining.
You are not some plant for him to constantly feed off of and pick and choose like some farmer, that is like he keeps you as a child in his own garden
and wants you to cook and eat yourself so like a parasite he can constantly have you on his table.
So what would happen if you consented and you both had children... Would he then feed off of you and them? The goal to grow into adulthood is too
escape those cycles of the past; not end up with someone trying to play parent/god/ruler over you so that they can build the kingdom they want... you
have wants and needs to be happy, feel healthy and grow, limiting that does absolutely nothing to your happiness and satisfaction equality equal
choice and well that should not ever have to be in disagreement; where love is more than a bedroom that is just desire not love that is someone still
wrestling with their own dragon in the basement and thinking it normal or tradition.
Perhaps thats the nonsense he grew up in and saw it as normal. A lot of fellows like to trap women into those roles... there is no growth and evolving
out of those cycles when consent to give up ones own personal power and strength to move forward and advance... I am glad that he has helped you but
at the same time that needs to continue or he is the container you keep out growing when he needs to grow as well.
So any arguments you two get into; is likely over wanting growth needing growth and those wanting it or reusing it or are blind to it. If he thinks
there is nothing wrong in the situation? Then you need to give him some what if scenarios and explain the reason you do the things that you do is
because he is making the future too cut off for a healthy and happy environment as a wife with possible children involved so that you can feel happy
healthy and advance and make a better life and environment than dysfunction and coping...
You are not some house pet for him to train as his property; you are a mate a gift to brighten and help his world... and it is only fair that he be
willing to do the same.
I understand the trust issues; I have no one I can trust everyone feeds off of me in some manner, thats why I simply just give freely like a tree
drops fruit/nuts/becomes home to squirrels and gives birds a place in the shade and to nest or roost.
Of course those trying to be snakes and horny goats all up in my business male or female? I am not hollow or empty, just unfulfilled due to all of
those that cannot get or understand all of the above I am saying to you. So hey happy to talk whenever, most would say aww leave the guy to only work
you into the same situation or go behind you and take that place or tear him a new one and dominate him so that he learns.
In such a manner all of that works or pans out so it's a matter of over coming and living happily and healthy. I am buried under a ton of work and as
a Libra or sign of partnership and judgment I work the best I can alone and let time sort other peoples messes by minding my own business.
In a since like Fraggle Rock? I am both Mr. and Mrs. Trash heap having seen the ways of all that $h!t on both sides and understand the reasonings and
motivations for it. I can and have switched roles in an instant and that's what progressing through all of this nonsense means... I have been hit with
labels when taking a more gentle or female role but those are just labels from fools, I have also taken the male role where I can fix/build pretty
Dictating to people so they write it down and live by it is nonsense, their rules they can keep them and the interesting thing is? Usually those
trying to make them and then expect them from others? Can't, wont or do not even live up to them themselves... but yet feeling above others in that
position? The assume that someone will submit to their dominance or lording over them and thus that cycle goes round and round of pointing and passing
responsibility around instead of actually putting themselves to work at their full potential in helping each other achieve.
If they out grow each other as in heading towards different paths? Then love lets go so growth continues instead of stifles. I have ex's as friends
some want to come back at times and it is basically always a no go to the come back... as they want to fall right back into where things left off;
sorry I have grown thanks for the help but I didn't stop and then let someone start pruning me; did you stop and if so what happened?
When I have had someone in my life at the beginning; so what kind of things did you like to do and for some reason stopped? Oh then the list rolls
out, and like Santa Claus I say well all of that stuff is fine with me... and I'll be happy to help in some manner, like my last ex liked puzzles and
karaoke... she said one ex was jealous and didn't want her going out so she quit that, one said puzzles were too boring so she quit that I didn't mind
either so I did puzzles with her and well I never heard her sing a single note... perhaps that relationship was too traumatizing to get back into that
as some sort of reminder and kept flashing her back to a time she over grew.
In the same way I used to skate and I mean a lot friends are like hey come skate and I am nope motorcycles are my thing, just because I threw myself
hard at skating for three decades and the body cant really do what I want too with it, the cruising around on them eh I prefer walking or a bicycle. I
may look 26ish; but I'm nearly 45... the state trying to limit my and others riding and driving to zero through corruption in trying to tie health
care/insurance/voter ID's etc. all together is extremely biased. So aside from art being that anchor being a voice for change in this state for
thousands effected by the same nonsense as also been an anchor... they expect people to jump through hoops like some circus animal and not only are
those statutes federally illegal? No one except those HMO's, Insurance companies, and party lines in control of the state for the last 50 years at
least were asking for it.
Tired of getting sold out like a slave... and who wouldn't be? When someone says this is a free country? Um are they giving it away or selling it to
corporations for a premium... that sort of thing just pisses me off and I very very much dislike politics and anyone using power to set up road blocks
to freedom, advancement and equality in equal opportunity for all no matter what they identify as or are labeled as being.