a reply to: Serdgiam
The realms or bardos of becoming... birth leads to sickness then old age and death. Why does it say birth leads to sickness, sickness is the delusion
or illusion even if one dies they may be aware or unaware of it's occurance... when they become aware of the cycle of birth, in the presnt moment then
such becomes transcended... but birth and death if not seen moment to moment; then some can see it as waking and sleeping at the beginning of their
day ending of their day. Death is an exciting time when aware of such a thing... the bardo is always occuring the cycle of birth and death... avoiding
the sickness nearly impossible so practice to keep focus and awareness conscious and clear.
We are said to be beings of light; for the reason that we are beings of light/energy... however, each realm has it's own light and at one's death or
awareness of it's occurance? These lights will present themselves, the so called soul as it is called, KA, conscious awareness, simply being, is a
broad and vast spectrum when given the opportunity beyond bias of the five aggregates of desire or attachment: form, sensations and or emotions from
the senses, perceptions, mental activity or formations of that contact and consciousness mistaking the subjective as reality. The lights will guide
one into the realm of becoming most needed or fitting for their incarnation into the cycle... in unawareness of this occuring as a constant in a state
of release or nibbana then one is stuck in the delusion of form and thus pain, sickness and suffering results having been attached in a bias to that
The human form is precious as it gives one the greatest chance to be liberated in one lifetime; to realize all of the lights of the bardos of becoming
to where nothing else can be learned from the cycle or realm; but what is left? Teaching, pointing, guiding others out of the cycle of becoming... non
attachment to form means to also have non attachment to formlessness so one goes back into form either their own if still habitable or into another
womb or in consciousness transferance. Consciousness transferance can be a dark art which I do not suggest attempting, many do such a thing and OBE is
a gateway to the practice yet it is a defilement and one that can leave one stuck as a hungry ghost with no where else to dwell... burning incense
will drive them away if negative and pull helpful energies near to aid the removal of such... choice is moment to moment now becoming this now
becoming that, when it comes down to the choices of the 5 aggregates? This is where the cycle of sickness arises from those attachments.
It is a natural thing; fighting it does not help... practice in release and non attachment is what frees... the opposite is what binds and leads to
So share the fond memories you have with your father, and also give him an opportunity to release any regrets, or guilt he may be attached to of
course he is draining you in the process trying to hold on just the same; without some resolution you will soon take the same course in the mutual
attachment... so it is not very healthy to either one of you, pulling each other down as a fate in the attachment and clinging.
I personally suggest hospice... also find out if you do not already know what "faith" he has most identified with and go visit one of them locally and
ask them if they could visit with him to help ease any of his mental burdens in the transition.
When all else fails remember to breathe; moments can become tight and constricting... when this occurs emotions and mental states change... awareness
of this? Breathe. That's really the only instruction the historical Buddha ever gave... the rest was churning butter.