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Originally posted by masterp
So in my opinion, sex is totally up to the individual. Do what makes you happy.
I like eating hamburgers. I want to eat one harburger every one hour. It makes me happy. Shall I do it?
Of course not, but that illustrates my point perfectly.
The point with sex is the same with drugs: it is so addictive, there is no stopping. Once you get pleasure, you can't stop. You always thing about it. For 99%, it is the thing mostly thought about in the course of the day.
You also never said that it doesn't. I am not sure that society requires it, but yes the moral obligations of marriage do require it's partners to nuture and nourish their relationship.
However, sexual love itself, is not the privilege of marriage, but a natural emotion we feel for others. So it is erronous to say that love can only exist within the institution of marriage. As we know both statistically and psychologically that the institution of marriage is not a bond of love, but a bond of commitment.
In fact, statistically, love marriages are more unsuccesful than arranged marriages.
No you don't. How are your emotions, desires and urges connected to a legally binding contract? The act of marriage is a social ritual. The act of sex is a human ritual.
How can masturbation be anti-social if 95% of men and 80% of women masturbate? Further, what does masturbation have to do with society and how you contribute to it? It's is an act of self-pleasure.
If you are going to give your partner pleasure, it's a good idea, to know how to give yourself pleasure.
Further, studies have shown suppressing your sexuality can lead to sexual dysfunctions. How do you suppose one abstains from acts of sexuality before marriage? You either use it or lose it. In todays culture the age for marriage is late 20's or 30's. Your sexual peak is the early 20's. So, again, if you don't use it in at your peak of youth, you will lose that experience.
If your partner masturbates you for you, it becomes right or wrong according to your doctrine?
It might suprise you that there are a helluva lot of people that don't feel the way you do about sex. There are many, many people out there who enjoy sex but don't find it addictive. In fact I would say that the majority enjoy sex and a lot of people are looking for it, but there are few who are actually addicted in the terms that you seem to be applying. Just because you enjoy something a lot does not mean that you are addicted. An addict tends to have to go and get his fix any way that he can.
Look at statistics throughout the world and you will see that the vast majority of people don't feel like or don't have the time for sex for long periods of time and they certainly are able to function without.
You like eating hamburgers. But you recognise that if you eat to many hamburgers you will get ill. What's so different about sex in that people can't make a recognition with it? And we'll not even mention the fact that sex doesn't make you ill (I'm not talking about STDs or AIDS here) and that it's a bit of a weak comparison.
What you seem to have done here is place your own experience with sex and lump everyone else in under the same bracket. You have to realise that there are billions of people out there who don't always think about it and don't always want it (my wife for one ). There are billions of people who see sex as part of an enjoyable life. There are billions of people who can take it or leave it at will. There are billions of people who are able to find a place for sex and live healthy lives.