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At the most superficial level, beauty might be thought to carry a kind of halo around it; we see that someone has one good attribute, and by association, our subconscious assumes that they have been blessed in other departments too. “It’s one of many status characteristics that we can identify very early in our interactions,” says Walker.
In the workplace, your face really can be your fortune. When everything else is considered, more attractive people tend to earn more money and climb higher on the corporate ladder than people who are considered less pleasing on the eye. One study of MBA graduates found that there was about a 10 to 15% difference in earnings between the most and least attractive people in the group – which added up to about $230,000 (£150,000) over a lifetime. “You are being conferred advantages throughout your life, from your schooldays into the workplace,” says Walker.
In addition to whatever personal pleasure it gives you, being attractive also helps you earn more money, find a higher-earning spouse (and one who looks better, too!) and get better deals on mortgages. Each of these facts has been demonstrated over the past 20 years by many economists and other researchers. The effects are not small: one study showed that an American worker who was among the bottom one-seventh in looks, as assessed by randomly chosen observers, earned 10 to 15 percent less per year than a similar worker whose looks were assessed in the top one-third — a lifetime difference, in a typical case, of about $230,000.
I have taken the Terra Nova--I scored in the 99th to 100th percentile--meaning I am the 1%. Based on that score, I am qualified to be a member of Mensa (but I won't because Mensa means idiot in Spanish lol).
This article isn't about attractive people in general. It's about people who are highly symmetrical--those people are INCREDIBLY RARE. 1% of people.
I realize that I can't say any of this without sounding arrogant.
I am glad that I don't know what jealousy feels like to feel. I've only ever felt what it does when it's aimed at me.
The point of this thread is that we need to talk about this.
So there you have it!
I win, regardless.
I am right. The end.
But yeah,I am just talking about the extremes of people who are attractive--those within the top 1% (maybe like top 5%--that would make more sense), It's specific. I'm not talking about everyday attractive or everyday smart. I am talking about extremes, here. People who you don't come across every day. I'm talking about geniuses. Granted, In my case, I only have IQ range of 145 to 150-which is 10 less than what Einstein purportedly had, so it's not like I'm some mega genius or anything like that. There's PLENTY of people way smarter than I am.
But yes. Only 1% of people have IQ's greater than 140.
originally posted by: RainbowPhoenix
This amounts to "Bragplaining" When you complain about something for the sole purpose of brining it up in conversation to brag about it.
re; I really hate the leather seats in my new BMW, they are either too cold in the winter or too hot in the summer.
It makes sense to me that people are mean to beautiful people, but maybe that's just because that's been my personal experience. Well, people are both really nice and mean/jealous. It's difficult to make friends that don't end up stabbing you in the back. And that hurts, especially when it keeps happening. It's lonely, sometimes. But it's nice, too.
I'm not going to be offended by anything, and despite the downsides of being beautiful I wouldn't trade it for being ugly--if I'm being 100% completely honest.
Sounds like someone's jimmies are rustled.
Lol so this appeared on my facebook newsfeed and I replied to the comments on ATS's page. And then deleted my comments because I'm a ninja like that and because that was enough. I could show you all my picture and then really be arrogant, but I won't because what I look like is utterly beside the point. My personal experiences, while valid and pertinent to this topic, are irrelevant in your attempts to 'debunk' this thread (or whatever you guys are trying to do. because no matter what you say, the truth is the truth.
Thank you to everyone who gets it. And to the negative nancies we've got going on en masse around here: whether you like it or not, what I said was true. Intelligence correlates with beauty.
What people think of me doesn't matter, because the truth is the truth--and nothing anyone says is going to change it.
I was lucky that my mom told me the truth, growing up. And what to expect. I mainly wanted to talk about it for perhaps someone else in my position who might not know these things and might instead blame themselves and think that something's wrong with them when it's not.
And to help younger people who might be in a similar position to mine understand the truth--especially if their parents didn't tell them like mine did.
They don't want to admit that they're the ones who fall victim to jealousy and lash out. They don't want to see it. So they deny it. And that helps them not feel so sad. It's awful. They're hurting themselves. People need to be proud of who they are. Regardless of what they look like or what they can do. And be happy for others who have nice things--things that they may want and cannot have for whatever reason. But that's not going to happen. Because people don't work that way. The truth hurts, unfortunately. I don't think that anything can really be done about it other than talk about it. Which is why I'm doing this, I guess.
...but then they go on the ugly person's wall and lie and call them beautiful and gorgeous. It's screwed up.
Why lie? To make people feel better? That's messed up and wrong. It just ends up inflating their heads because they're NOT beautiful. You can't inflate a beautiful person's head because beauty is something we take for granted. it's not something we desire because we have it. we don't want more of it. if you call us beautiful, it's just like oh, thank you that's nice of you. and then that's it. it's not like I don't have eyes.
originally posted by: BASSPLYR
I've stoped talking to him because he's pathetic and I don't have time for that sort but those who have checked in with him have discovered he's exchanging the last of his looks to live at someold lady's house er bed. thats gotta be rough. but at the same time i dont pitty him. i tried in his 20s teaching him a trade, so hed have some sort of applicable life n job skills but he threw that away cause it was easy to leverage his looks for a free ride at the time.
originally posted by: rukiaIn fact, I doubt my abilities all of the time. I have an eating disorder. I often hate myself, actually.
originally posted by: rukiaAnd because I really don't care what anyone thinks of me. I am glad that I don't know what jealousy feels like to feel.
originally posted by: rukia You need to accept yourself for who you are and be happy with it.
originally posted by: rukia The point of this thread is that we need to talk about this.
originally posted by: rukiaThis is anything but superficial and if you think it's superficial, then I'm going to call transference on that B.S.
originally posted by: rukiaAnd why is getting old a bad thing? Beauty fades, dumb is forever, as Judge Judy always says! I can't wait till I get old, I'm going to be such a funny and obnoxious old person!
originally posted by: Bluesma
Even so, it can still become a problem for you, when we get to these people who have been treated unfairly, and can do actual harm to yourself, your possessions, your career, your relations...
There will also often be the assumption that your choice to deny what happened is a choice to USE and profit off that effect- not that it is coming form a belief system that "if I ignore it, it won't happen anymore".
The only action I have found that solves this dilemma is, in such circumstances, to speak up and insist on justice, immediately. To do so, you'd have to acknowledge that what the coworker saw really happened, be aware of such subtle unfairness that happens without anyone making an effort or being aware they are doing it.
originally posted by: Bluesma
I am pleasantly surprised. Turns out that all the people who applied are young women, who either have young children, or might choose to soon.
So my age is a really big factor for him, plus it is not full time, and means being available for emergencies whenever they happen. I live close to the office as well.
So it is rather unconventional for him to consider me over these people with diplomas, a sort of lucky combination of elements, for which I am thankful!!!
originally posted by: Bluesma
I am getting old (late forties) so this makes me want to say to younger women- you just never know! Sometimes you are busy raising your family and all, afraid the train has passed you by, but that is not necessarily true!
You still might be able to do work you dream of, or learn a skill you always dreamed of doing!
Just keep busy, going forth into new things all the time, and see what comes together later as a result.
What Im getting at is knowing I had the cards stacked against me I should have backed out but that was not an option, I was going to go in there and get my butt handed to me before I chickened out. I should have been petrified but instead I felt oddly calm.
When in the cage I went blank, to this day it feels like a dream. I was presented with so many reasons to back out, even my mouth guard felt very sharp and uncomfortable on the inside of my cheeks I had to cut it down so my mouth didn't blow up when I got hit. Though I lost for me it was a victory because I proved myself I had it in me to step up, and I learned I could take a few punches right on the nose and keep fighting.