Mkay, I've just reviewed the thread from where I left off.
OP - think about this from a 'hetero' point of view.
Are you a work-boots, blue-jeans, scruffy hair, stubble and flannel shirt kinda guy? Some chicks really, really dig that (I'm one of them).
Are you a straight-laced, corporate-haired, clean-shaven accountant type of guy? Some chicks look for that type like radar....
Are you a biker? Some chicks find that really sexy.
Are you a golfer?
Are you a slicked-back hair, tailored suit, shined shoes, cologned kind of guy????????
What sort of people are attracted to you??
Okay, now - let's say you are a woman - a hetero woman (like I am). I could dress in hoochie-mama clothes, like thigh-high boots with stilleto heels,
super short skirts, fishnet stockings, full make-up at all times, hair perfectly sculptured (was going to say 'coifed' but wasn't sure you'd know what
it means), manicured fake nails, and lots and lots of cleavage.....
if I wanted to.
But - I don't. Most of the time I'm in jeans and hoodies. I wear my hair long because I like it. Over the last 3 years or so, I've stopped worrying
about wearing makeup (that was a hard transition in terms of self-consciousness). I own ONE outfit suitable for a funeral; ONE for a wedding; and
very few "business casual" clothes. More of a boho type (look it up)........
I don't mind wearing bluejeans, don't mind dressing up for an opera. But my "preferred" look is relaxed, not particularly "sexy" except to a
certain type of guy
(a guy likely dressed in work-boots with a 3-day beard).
I prefer a guy who drives a jeep rather than a guy who babies his BMW. Etc. (ETA: Yeah, not a guy who drives a jeep TO a guy who babies his
BMW....just to be clear). Semantics, you know.
There is no difference between that, and how gay people dress and groom themselves.
I can be very girly if I have to - I can even swing a hammer and I like fishing. I know how to sit at a formal table, which forks to use, etc. I
also don't mind eating off of a paper plate with my fingers.
I wouldn't, however, be caught dead in a hooker outfit ANYWHERE - I just won't do it. It's not who I am.
Same as I only reluctantly put on pantyhose and heels.....makeup and bleh.
I'm totally and completely heterosexual.
is it clear now?
We are just WHO WE ARE.
edit on 12/8/2015 by BuzzyWigs because: (no reason given)