Hello friends of ATS,
I have lurked around this website for around 6 or 7 years now but I now have something i feel is worthwhile to contribute. I am in urgent need of
advice/clarity and there is nowhere better than here to get this. I am having trouble right now, the problem is the trouble is with the very people
who are put in place by the system in order to "protect". This is my story.
This year, late August in Dundee, Scotland, me and my partner who I will refer to as 'Lucy', had an argument. It is quite common for us, a young
couple, stressing over money and the numerous things going on in my life such as losing my job at the start of the year, finding out my little brother
had cancer not too long later and then my Grandmother who brought me up dying suddenly not too long after that.
I was struggling for work, we were struggling to pay the bills, she had just come home from work and something petty as it usually is, had us arguing
with the remaining bit of energy we both had left. Lucy decided she would go and get a KFC, which would have been good because it would cool things
down. Lucy stormed out but left the front door wide open, i walked over and just threw it shut around 30 seconds later, presuming she was atleast
beside her car. It all happened so quick.
I heard the sound of Lucy screaming and swearing. I opened up the door immediately and seen Lucy lying on the ground, I at first looked at her legs
but seen no visible injury. I was about to ask her what was wrong before i saw it, the blood everywhere and her index finger hanging off.
It was absolutely horrific, i couldn't believe it. At first i didn't know what to do, i just sort of stood there, staring as she screamed then i ran
into the house and just grabbed a kitchen towel, apologising the whole time, in a state of utter disbelief that this had happened. I gave her the
towel, she screamed at me saying " What the F%&$ am i supposed to do with that"? she was right, i just didn't have a clue what to do, it didn't
help either that i didn't have a phone and we have no house phone.
At this point the neighbour came out, we both screamed at him in a panic to phone an ambulance, then i heard my son inside calling. My son is only
four years old so i had to go inside to console him.
I go inside and hug my son, i tell him everything is going to be OK and that there has been an accident but the doctors will be there soon to help
mummy. I sit him down on the sofa and hand him the i-pad to distract him while i go back outside.
The male neighbour comes back outside seconds later after i do, presumably i thought at this point he had just phoned an ambulance. He looks at me
and says " You better get yourself together, the authorities are on there way, you really need to pull yourself together". I am suddenly overwhelmed
by anger, clearly this guy, who has never liked me from the moment we met, was insinuating that i had done this to Lucy on purpose. At this point i
begin to shout at him and tell him to get the F*£$&£ back inside as he is not helping anything by standing there accusing me. He goes back into his
home and i hear my son shouting. I tell Lucy that he must of phoned an ambulance and that they should be there soon and we agree it's best that i go
back in to our son.
I sit with my son for a couple of minutes when all of a sudden i hear Lucy arguing with someone. I walk out of the living room to find police standing
beside her. I hear her telling them that they need a warrant to come in, that they don't need to be there as it was an accident and that she just
needs an ambulance.
They aren't listening to her, instead they are telling her to "shut up and calm down", they treated her like she was being completely unreasonable
by being loud while her finger was hanging off. All she wanted was for an ambulance to come. A female officer approaches me, i ask her what they are
doing there and tell her it was accidental, she tells me they were called to a "domestic disturbance".
Around five minutes later, there are suddenly 7 or 8 officers at our house. One sat in the living room with myself and my son. Another standing at the
living room door. Three or four stood in the hallway and the rest were outside with Lucy.
Around 20-25 minutes later Lucy's mum arrives, during this time i have been questioned once by the first female officer i seen and have had no
contact with the other officers who seemed to be doing nothing but standing around talking amongst themselves and speaking down to Lucy for her
unreasonable demand for an ambulance.
Lucy's mum comes into the living room after speaking with Lucy, she asks if myself and my son are OK and just asks me what happened. She tells me
Lucy told her it was an accident aswell and that all she is wanting is an ambulance but for some reason it seems like it is never coming.
Lucy's mum told me she couldn't believe an ambulance hadn't arrived yet as she lives 20 minutes away and has managed to get there so it isn't like
it can be caught in traffic. We speak for a little while then she goes back outside to Lucy.
It was around fifty minutes at the least, from the police arriving, before an ambulance eventually arrived. Now the police questioned me minutes after
arriving, i explained what had happened. They clearly had a call from the neighbour, and he clearly said he felt it was purposeful, so again with
these two statements surely the one thing they could prove at this point was, Lucy was clearly innocent of any crime. So why when they arrived, did
she get treated like a suspect? They treated her disgustingly, as if a finger hanging off is just a normal every-day occurrence and that she should
stop "over-reacting" over it.
Even if she was
a suspect however, is there a Scottish Law that says they have the right to delay immediate medical attention while they do
"enquiries" ? (standing around chatting). Is it right that the police, which i have since learned, only after forty/forty-five minutes since
initially arriving, called for an ambulance to be dispatched? I know this because Lucy told me she HEARD the officer call for it!
Now i am going to insert a picture of her finger from that night. I warn you it is graphic. I am doing this however, so you know what the police
arrived to that night and to see if you feel that her finger in this state deserved immediate medical attention.
The doctors tried to save her finger, they stitched it up that night and felt there was a slight chance it could be saved. They informed her that with
incidents like hers, time is very much of the essence and that the quicker they see you the better your chances. Her finger seemed to be healing for a
little while after the operation but unfortunately she lost it in the end.
After the operation to remove half of her finger, Lucy called me and asked if i could come back to help out for a while. My bail conditions were that
I could not go near Lucy or have contact with her. Lucy informed me that after speaking with my solicitor she had put in writing to the courts that
she did not wish to have a bail against me as it was an accident and we are still a couple. What we both thought, due to a misunderstanding somewhere,
was that this meant the bail had been lifted. Ofcourse i found out different a couple of days after i had decided to come back.
(to be continued, please wait to comment)