originally posted by: Kukri
a reply to: rukia
I won't bother with the test but as an anecdote I thought I'd overcome my evil impulses years ago. but a recent incident made me realize it's still
buried there just barely below the surface.
Don't know why I shared this, feeling guilty about it I guess.
- Do evil people feel guilty?
- Do evil impulses an evil person make?
- Is there a way to heal the world from evil?
WHAT IS THE PSYCHOLOGY OF EVIL ?
You said you felt "GUILTILY about it" (and still do)
Did I get that right?
I find that people often say they feel GUILTY when the are actually just struggling with TOXIC SHAME. Allow me to explain, and reference what you
said. This "event" or "impulse" that you feel a little guilty about... was it really evil? Perhaps, but having an evil impulse does not an evil person
make. One evil act does not define a person's life. And feeling guilty is normal, not evil.
We all have TOXIC EMOTIONS and PSYCHIC PAIN. We all feel lack and loss, we all engage in the human drama of FEAR and ATTACK, but that doesn't make us
EVIL. PEOPLE are not EVIL, even if their actions are. PEOPLE are just PEOPLE and the come in all shapes and sizes. People are all the same (on the
inside) and all different (on the outside) at the same time.
You said "maybe I feel guilty about it" which is very telling. I doubt and truly evil person would tell anyone they feel guilty, unless is was to
manipulate and gain advantage. Let me set your mind at ease, YOU are not EVIL. If the "event" was some acting out on your part, then what you may be
feeling is SHAME at the act and to my mind this is not the same as guilt.
SHAME is TOXIC, it needs to be healed.
Guilt is feeling very much like shame only guilt is connected to a need for validation. Guilt has to do with feeling bad become someone knows (or
might know) we did THIS or failed to do THAT. When we EMOT guilt, it is a passing thing, not so with SHAME. When guilt becomes SHAME it becomes
In the same way, an embarrassment can turn to humiliation. People don't murder other people because the were embarrassed, why? Because that is just a
passing emotion. Humiliation IS a motive for murder, why? Because it is a TOXIC EMOTION and produces PSYCHIC PAIN.
The people we like to label "EVIL" have the same TOXIC SHAME deep inside them that we have in us, the difference is they feel no guilt when it comes
to the surface and they make no apologies unless the can find no other way to advance their own interests. Evil is a "spirit of false authority" which
can dwell inside a person who has a bitter heart. Such hard hearts are free to change their mind (perspective and attitude), but refuse to do so. They
are a slave to TOXIC EMOTION and PSYCHIC PAIN is projected out into the world, thus causing more "evil" and suffering in the world.
TOXIC SHAME is two things: Current and on-going PSYCHIC PAIN and TOXIC EMOTIONS from memories. On one side we have the FEAR and on the other side we
have the SHAME. Out of TOXIC FEAR we ATTACKS ON OTHERS. We ATTACK out of FEAR of lack and loss, but when ever we do engage in this bad behavior we
heap more SHAME on ourselves. As the burden of SHAME goes heavy, so does our bitter heart. This in turn produces more PSYCHIC PAIN, and more evil in
FEAR is a big part of the side I like to call TOXIC EMOTIONS. Fear it self is not a bad thing, it is normal and as it happends a very healthy emotion,
just like anger. The problem is when FEAR or ANGER turn TOXIC.
FEAR over bad things we have done catching up to us (we often call this "guilt") or FEAR can be a "memory" of the future that is unpleasant, uncertain
or in doubt. This memory of the future is what we call FEAR. It is really just a time-based illusion. Nevertheless, while the object of FEAR may be
unreal, the FEAR itself is very real in terms of the effect it has in this world.
The effect of hosing TOXIC EMOTIONS is very unpleasant and it gives rise to self-inflicted PSYCHIC PAIN. Simply stated: a bad attitude produces bad
behavior. The way to fix this problem is to change your mind. Stop using "Should be" phrases in your Self-Talk (that the #1 source of anger) and
replace it with "Ought To" (be pro-active) then you will see you good attitude manifest in good behavior. This is what it really means to REPENT, "to
turn about face" and start marching in the other direction. The power to do that is inside of each one of us.
Yes, there is EVIL in the world, and there is also healing available for those who seek it.
edit on 6-12-2015 by wasaka because: (no reason given)