a reply to: lavatrance
If you're asking, you're drinking too much.
I drink way too much right now, and it started with drinking a few times a week. That's how it always starts, slowly.
I've been trying to fight this off for awhile, and when I was younger I could go weeks or months without it. Started drinking heavily when I was 16,
around 19-23 didn't drink much at all, but when I started to drink alone it started getting worse. It's a terrible coping mechanism, it makes you
feel worse, it makes any depression or insomnia worse, it has no actual benefit except that you get a little happy without earning that happiness
while you're drunk, and that's fake happy.
It's really good you're already questioning it at this stage. I didn't for a LONG time, and it's been a real problem looking back. Your tolerance
builds, so you have to pay and drink more to get the same feeling, and the more you drink the worse it is for your body. The more you drink, the
harder it is to quit.
I'm drinking right now because I feel depressed about losing someone very close to me that died because of drinking (I've lost a few, all way too
young and I'm talking because of medical complications). It's incredibly screwed up, and I wish I had made better choices. Started the same way as
Everyone is incredibly different in their ability to drink and remain healthy. Some people can drink a few every night and be pretty much fine, other
people can't stop, and end up drinking an entire bottle or more at night. It's not worth the risk. It's expensive, it's extra calories, it dulls
your brain (not just when you're drunk and hungover), it can give you anxiety, it can give you a host of medical problems, even with a slight buzz you
aren't going to be as capable of making good decisions.
Talk to a doctor first, but see if you can go three months without a drink. If that sounds hard, I've got news for ya...
One night I drank a bit, then fell asleep. Woke up way later with some allergies, felt sober, hopped in the car to get some Benadryl, figuring if I
felt fine I was. Boom DUI. That S is expensive. Guess what I pay every month in insurance. It's over $400 (part of that is the car being new and
uh, "sporty", but still, I paid cash for that car so good luck if you finance and HAVE to pay full coverage). Had to pay a lawyer, had to go serve
time in jail (cop was super nice and drove me home, but it's mandatory 1 day--should be more, that wasn't fun a year later-I had a good lawyer). Had
to go to two LONG meetings about driving under the influence (you pay for that) had to go talk with a counselor 4 times (you pay out the ASS for
that), had to have a breathalyzer installed in my car, which is insanely expensive/embarrassing/annoying for a year. I got lucky, my car was new
enough they couldn't wire the CAMERA system, so I just had to blow in it every once in awhile. Now, you have to hold the breathalyzer until the
mounted camera recording you all the time recognizes it, and then blow.
What are you really getting from drinking? It feels good for a few minutes. So do SO many other things, but they feel good for a lot longer. When I
fight it off, I work on my house. One week of not drinking and I replaced this hideous cedar planked wall (including the drywall behind it and I had
to learn as I went), redid the fireplace, got base and crown molding installed, hung a new door (so much trial and error) and now have a really nice
living room. it was time far better spent, and I enjoy it daily. Drinking you enjoy in the moment, but it's not real.
This crap is hard to talk about. It's embarrassing, it makes me feel incredibly weak. It's worth it if though if I can help someone else not make
the same mistakes.
When it became a habit, it became a very bad habit. If you're asking yourself now, listen. It's easy to slip and start drinking only 4 times a week,
or just one more drink when you do. It snowballs.
Wishing you the best OP. You may not have a problem, you may not be like me, just be real careful with this thing. Some of us weren't meant to
drink. I can tell you some stories about m childhood if you don't believe me. I can tell you some stories about people I've known that were shining
bright and just blinked out.
Don't let it become a habit.