posted on Dec, 1 2015 @ 07:18 PM
This is going to be a lengthy post, please bare with it.
I was wondering if anyone has any experience with a family member or loved one that has BPD?
If so, i was wanting to know the tell tale signs.
Someone i love displays the symptoms that ive read about on the net.
Anxiety, sudden crazy mood swings - going from everything being normal, then the person suddenly becomes defensive and starts accusing the other of
the most unlikely scenarios. Spontaneous depression and anger.
Example - last year around this time my wife had BPD symptoms started and was thinking the world was out to get her. That everything that happened was
done intentionally to ruin the her life.
I dont have much of a social life anymore. I dedicate my entire life to my wife and kids. I go to work and come home and spend every single day im
home with my wife.
Suddenly i was being accused of either being in the mafia or was an undercover cop. (Quite the spectrum there) and that i would leave our house and go
to my other familys home for the 4 days a week i am out of town working. During which time, i would either earn proceeds of crime or do undercover cop
things. Then i would make my paystubs on the computer and mail them to the house.
Then it got more intense. Suddenly i was being accused of trying to think of ways to have her killed so i could get insurance money. Soon it was
everything i said and did was put under a microscope.
being on the end of the accusations, i felt like i was on the stand from the second i woke up in the morning till she fell asleep. It was one of the
hardest things i have ever had to deal with in my life.
But i did. I would do everything i could to try to calm her. It would sink in that it was all in her head for the first bit, then all of that went out
the window and it was back at square one again.
I joined a support group on how to deal with people who have BPD. Did a lot of reading and finally got her into see a psychiatrist. The mental health
system in my city is a joke.
After i was finally able to start getting her help, i was still the bad guy. No matter what i said, it was me out to get her. Even though i stood
beside her the entire time. That wasnt enough to prove to her that i wasnt living a double life and that i love her.
After a few months it was found that her anti depressant mirtazapine was the culprit behind bringing her symptoms out.
Now, the past few days ive been noticing my wifes anxiety rising. Its in the paranoia stage right now.
over the weekend we did some christmas shopping. I seen this thing called a paperless book. Basically its a tablet with a stylus, you write notes on
it and to erase what you have on the tablet when you push a button. voila you have a fresh place to write.
I showed it to her a few months back at michaels craft store, but she payed no mind to it.
So when she took interest in the tablet thing the other day, i said ya, i showed you this months ago. That was that.
Tonight i get a phone call from her saying, i was at michaels tonight but i couldnt find that paperless book tablet thing. Then she goes, who did you
goto michaels with?
I said i was with you everytime ive been there.
Then She hung up on me.
I called her back and said, you hang up on me because you cant remember looking at something 2 months ago?
She said ya right and hung up again.
Rather than call her back to fight, i went and had a smoke.
Earlier in the day she had an appointment and called me up almost crying because of how horrible it went.
The entire time i could tell she was blowing the situation out of proportion. She claimed that this doctor and his secretary were just staring at her
and were trying to make her feel like an idiot.
The jist of it was, she couldn't understand what the docter was saying to her in regards to having her tonsil removed. I just agreed with her and
told her to relax.
I know if i bring it up to her about her being in a BPD episode, I'm gonna be called every name in the book because im a liar, theres nothing wrong
with her and that im trying to make her think she has mental problems.
Im lost here. I dont know what to do. Do i leave it and let her go into a manic episode. Or do I bring it up and deal with the barage of insults ?
Does anyone here have any experience dealing with this type of thing?