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I'm 28 years old, I've never had a girlfriend or kissed anyone ever

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posted on Nov, 19 2015 @ 09:28 PM
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I'm just bad with women I suppose, I guess it's something I have to accept. My biggest weakness is communication...it's like I know what I want to say but my brain has a hard time saying it lol

No I'm not lying about my age, we do have counsellors at college. I know you're probably thinking that I'm too old for college, but it's a huge struggle...




posted on Nov, 19 2015 @ 09:32 PM
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a reply to: anobody

Why is it something you have to accept?

Anyone can change my friend...

Life IS change

Kinda sounds like you're giving up, and you just wrote this thread... what was the point?


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posted on Nov, 19 2015 @ 09:40 PM
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Try forcing yourself out of your comfort zones.



posted on Nov, 19 2015 @ 09:41 PM
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a reply to: Akragon

Yes I will try to change. I believe in the personal growth as well as supporting for SO's personal growth. Well if I find someone, I'll let you guys know!



posted on Nov, 19 2015 @ 09:44 PM
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a reply to: anobody

DO yourself a favor... IF you have any female friends who are actually friends

Practice flirting innocently... maybe even tell them that you need some help with this issue

Women will gladly help a guy that truly and genuinely asks for it

And honestly, who knows what women want better then women?

Mel Gibson perhaps? LOL




posted on Nov, 19 2015 @ 09:46 PM
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a reply to: anobody


I'm just bad with women I suppose, I guess it's something I have to accept. My biggest weakness is communication...it's like I know what I want to say but my brain has a hard time saying it lol


then do some "exercises" begin talking to the most non-threatening female you know. A grandmotherly neighbor.
A teacher. Someone with whom a romantic relationship is out of the question.

I could go on but I'm sleepy. Google something like 'how to talk to girls, how to get a date, that kind of stuff.

I'm sure you'll get some ideas. Listen to Akragon.

'night and good luck buddy! I am 100% confident this will happen in due time, because, LOVE.
When you fall in love it somehow happens without even thinking about it. It's like some passionate unstoppable force takes over. It's simultaneously crazy and wonderful.

Right Akragon?



posted on Nov, 19 2015 @ 09:59 PM
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a reply to: ladyinwaiting

Absolutely... Love smacks you in the face when you least expect it

Just don't be stupid like me and fall in love with a religious fundy when you're completely against it

Don't even worry about love at this point...

Gotta work on that first kiss... And don't fall in love with whoever that might be when it happens

And it WILL happen... IF you just try




posted on Nov, 19 2015 @ 10:45 PM
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You can't say you don't like spaghetti if you've never had spaghetti....seriously, get some weird sex

a reply to: anobody



posted on Nov, 19 2015 @ 11:02 PM
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originally posted by: SantanicoPandemonium
You can't say you don't like spaghetti if you've never had spaghetti....seriously, get some weird sex

a reply to: anobody



I would rather touch a girl that I actually like and in love with, but that's just me.



posted on Nov, 19 2015 @ 11:41 PM
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originally posted by: SantanicoPandemonium
You can't say you don't like spaghetti if you've never had spaghetti....

I do that with tons of foods!



posted on Nov, 20 2015 @ 12:01 AM
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a reply to: anobody

Hello,

I can tell you by your words exactly what your problems are. Firstly, I think you are depressed due to your situation. Secondly, I believe that your situation is created by your frame of mind, which is creating your first problem. I would guess that you are stuck in the never ending circle, and have been most of your life. Women, and people, are attracted to people that are confident, and sure of themselves.

If you are to change your situation, you have to change your frame of mind. You need to break your cycle. I am sure you have plenty to offer, but your mental state is blocking that from happening. Ever wonder why you see beautiful women with fat ugly slobs? It isn't because they are rich, or hung well. It's because they are confident, and had the balls to talk to them.

I would suggest starting by working on yourself first. Once you change your mental state, the rest of the world will open up for you.

My advice is to torrent or purchase personal power 2 by Anthony Robbins. It helped me, and I bet it will help you. I have other items of interest if you would like, and I will be happy to recommend after you finish this program.

I have been dealing with depression and most of my life as well.

Wolves and Sheeple.



posted on Nov, 20 2015 @ 03:45 AM
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originally posted by: Akragon
a reply to: stonerwilliam

LMAO!

the very thought of a virgin on POF...



but you may be right




I could be his pimp you just never know



posted on Nov, 20 2015 @ 11:28 AM
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a reply to: anobody

What does your week and weekend look like?

What do you currently try to do to meet women?

How many women a month would you say you try to kiss?

What do you do for fun?



posted on Nov, 20 2015 @ 11:57 AM
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a reply to: Akragon

Ak I'm surprised at some of your answers.
Being pretty good that is. You seem to have a knack for this
kind thing. I don't do so bad myself but,
What do you really think of the idea I had. To get this man a
prostitute? Not so much to get layed laid how do you spell that?

But more as someone to talk to for advice. Just wondering what
your thoughts were amigo. I understand the question is a bit
fresh and if you don't answer I'm cool widat. Do you think
it's absurd? Seemed okay when I wrotr it. What are your
thoughts Hobson?



posted on Nov, 20 2015 @ 12:40 PM
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originally posted by: anobody
Hi, thought I'd join in for a discussion of my situation. I'm basically shy, and I don't know when to make a move, unsure whether I can tell if someone likes me or not. I guess you could say I'm paranoid or something. Maybe I just don't trust women very well. Or I just don't trust humans? Here I am nearing 30 and I'm not even sure if that's normal. I've been through a lot and struggling and I guess I still am....the communication between me and others isn't that great. Yes I've tried online dating, it isn't all that cracked up to be.

Well I guess I'll have to die alone since basically nobody cares that I'm a alive, existing in a state out of nowhere...so...I don't know what to say. I guess the point is I was hoping some of you intellectuals might help me or advise me, because I basically have no reason to live and I always wanted to have someone, that I can grow with and support each other.

So, you probably think I'm an idiot or something because I never have a confidence for anything. Yes I try to dress well and always look after my hygiene and everything that you can think of. The communication between me and others just isn't that great. Maybe I just gave up and don't give a # anymore.


OK, i am still on page one and appalled at some of the suggestions (hire a hooker etc). Really? some people are confident, some not so, i'm not so and would guess the OP is in the same boat (Low self esteem and all that crap), yeah, go get a hooker, that fkn works. Idiots, grow up



posted on Nov, 20 2015 @ 01:10 PM
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originally posted by: randyvs
a reply to: Akragon

Ak I'm surprised at some of your answers.
Being pretty good that is. You seem to have a knack for this
kind thing. I don't do so bad myself but,
What do you really think of the idea I had. To get this man a
prostitute? Not so much to get layed laid how do you spell that?

But more as someone to talk to for advice. Just wondering what
your thoughts were amigo. I understand the question is a bit
fresh and if you don't answer I'm cool widat. Do you think
it's absurd? Seemed okay when I wrotr it. What are your
thoughts Hobson?


Oldest profession in the world bud...

Might scare the crap out of him though...

I think he just needs to find a nice girl he likes and work on that...




posted on Nov, 20 2015 @ 01:47 PM
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Seriously... plenty of people have said it - go see a lady of the night.
If you can't talk or charm a girl into some sort of romantic or sexual encounter and don't fancy shagging random people through an app on your phone... then seriously, a prostitute.

I'd imagine once you have an experience or two you'll get a huge confidence boost and you'll be raring to go.
Women will see you are more confident and you'll exude confidence without realising.

Don't just sit there and say "Oh well I'll never get laid, I'm not supposed to" because It's nonsense.


YOLO dude


edit on 20/11/15 by blupblup because: (no reason given)



posted on Nov, 20 2015 @ 01:57 PM
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where u at buddy, pmp me....ill take u to tijuana....boy youll be new in 30mins
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posted on Nov, 20 2015 @ 02:00 PM
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WELL SAID! bravo!
a reply to: SlowNail

so true, dude...ANY girl and i mean any, dude if you can make her crack up, boy get ready, shes gunna eat you alive



posted on Nov, 20 2015 @ 03:10 PM
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You will be fine OP. Your problem is, you think too much. You are overthinking every little thing. What you said about going through every way a conversation can go in your head before hand and then not being able to say anything in real life. That is your major problem. You need to stop overthinking everything. Or it will never happen. Because you won't ever let it happen.

You could get a hooker, I guess. I have never went down that road. So I can not offer any advice on that. What I personally think you should do is try the online dating again. But instead of using something like Plenty of Fish or Tinder. Go and reply to Craigslist ads.

Do not use one sentence replies and do not send a nude downstairs pic. That is what 90 percent of the guys on there do. You want to set yourself apart from those guys. Reply with a nice face pic and a little about yourself and why you think the woman you are responding to is interesting and unlike all the other woman on the site.

Most guys do not do that. Most guys are still on the highschool, early college, alpha male is what women want trip. Which is somewhat true for the younger girls. You do need confidence, but you do not need to act like an alpha I slay the p word kind of guy. Not anymore, now that you are nearing thirty. That time has passed for you. I mean you could get away with it for a few more years but you do not seem like that type of guy. Once you are over thirty and still doing that, you are entering pathetic territory where you get the washed up bar fly girls.

Just be polite but intelligently flirty in your responses and really get to know the girls you are talking to. Listen to what she to say and become what she wants and needs. All the clues will be there. Exchange emails for a bit then switch to texts. But never stray into straight up friend zone territory. Always be flirty and let her know she is beautiful and you are into her. Once you build trust and more confidence from emailing and texting with her. Once she starts sending you sexy pics. Then start upping your game. Start being more bold in what you say to her.

If she responds keep it up until you and her are sexting. This is where an over thinker like you can shine. The most important sex organ in a woman is her brain. If you get her going in her mind, the body will be easy. Be smart and erotic. Give her fantasies that she can read where she is the center of attention. Just do not stray into any super kinky fantasies right away. Be romantic but naughty at first. Then follow where she leads. If you do it right. This will make her start to develop some form of feelings for you. Even if they are just sexual and not actual love.

Then when you are ready, actually meet her. If you have made it this far. She will not say no. You might be afraid because you are shy. But do not worry. If she has stayed along for the ride this far. She will make the first move if you do not. Trust me. So that will somewhat negate your shyness.

If it does not work out with the first girl. Or stops before meeting. Then initiate the dance of seduction with another girl. Until you find someone who will dance with you the whole way. Do not get discouraged and do not become obsessed with any one woman if she does not feel the same way about you. That is the biggest danger for someone like you. You will feel a very strong love for the first woman you fall for that sleeps with you. But she may not feel the same way because chances are you will not be her first love and she will not be a virgin like you are.

In my opinion the above is the best general guideline for someone like yourself. That has no experience and is somewhat shy. There are other ways to woo woman but I think the slow burn online thing is best for you. I can almost guarantee you it will work.

Oh and this may be a little insensitive but play within your level. If your a ten then go for tens. If you are an eight go for eights. If you are a five go for fives. If you are a three go for threes. Not everyone gets supermodels. Do not hold out for an unrealistic fantasy option.




edit on 20-11-2015 by karmicecstasy because: (no reason given)







 
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