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I'm 28 years old, I've never had a girlfriend or kissed anyone ever

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posted on Nov, 19 2015 @ 03:22 AM
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originally posted by: woodwardjnr
I don't see any harm in it.


Then why feeling like deleting it when the person you are seeing is coming over?




posted on Nov, 19 2015 @ 03:24 AM
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originally posted by: gggilll

originally posted by: woodwardjnr
I don't see any harm in it.


Then why feeling like deleting it when the person you are seeing is coming over?
Just for an easy life



posted on Nov, 19 2015 @ 03:26 AM
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originally posted by: woodwardjnr

originally posted by: gggilll

originally posted by: woodwardjnr
I don't see any harm in it.


Then why feeling like deleting it when the person you are seeing is coming over?
Just for an easy life


An easy life without that person feeling hurt.



posted on Nov, 19 2015 @ 03:28 AM
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a reply to: anobody

It's actually a good idea, the prostitute thing, because they wont care if you're shy, they are being paid for a task and most will insist the task is done.....in a very seductive way, or not.

Either way you can be as shy as you like.



posted on Nov, 19 2015 @ 03:30 AM
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a reply to: anobody


That's really sad.
I hope your situation changes and you can find the confidence needed to have this experience.



posted on Nov, 19 2015 @ 03:31 AM
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originally posted by: woodwardjnr
a reply to: reldra I've got it on my phone, but I've kind of being seeing someone for a year so delete it when she comes over, just in case she gets nosey. It's just a bit of fun and it's always interesting when you swipe someone and you have mutual friends on Facebook. I don't see any harm in it. It's no different from going to a bar or club, which I feel a bit old for these days


No harm, especially since you delete it and start over another day. Sounds like a swipe game for you rather than any intent.



posted on Nov, 19 2015 @ 03:33 AM
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a reply to: woodwardjnr


easy life=easy life. Damn ppl can throw stones even over a phone app lol.



posted on Nov, 19 2015 @ 03:39 AM
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a reply to: anobody

The internet is full of dating sites - Get out there and find a similar lady.



posted on Nov, 19 2015 @ 03:47 AM
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a reply to: reldra I think there's always that element of vanity some of us have that we need our ego stroked. I promise I don't duck face or pout and avoid girls who do as a rule



posted on Nov, 19 2015 @ 04:17 AM
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originally posted by: anobody
I'm not into prostitutes lol.


How do you know? Some of my best friends are working girls. Not street walkers but hi class entertainers , and they are easer to talk to than a bartender. Kid you have got to get in the game, you are wasting time. Their are web sites to help you, try usasexguide or date-check.

I once had a job that required a lot of travel alone in other city's and I hated eating dinner alone more than anything. So I gravitated to the bar to have someone to talk to.

My advice is take a week to have dinner out every night and don't go early, sit at the bar and have a genuine conversation with your piers. Oh even if you don't drink, well a little alcohol will make it easer. One of those entertainer friends of mine call alcohol, "tolerance juice." She is a smart and classy lady.

One more thing and this important, don't try too hard.



posted on Nov, 19 2015 @ 05:12 AM
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I'd join your local pua (pick up artist) community and meet up with guys with similar problems. Approaching women is MUCH easier with a wingman around; and having some pick up lines/routines rehearsed.




posted on Nov, 19 2015 @ 05:25 AM
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Maybe you need to find someone that connects with you mentally, sapiosexuality, you know?



posted on Nov, 19 2015 @ 05:44 AM
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a reply to: anobody

Greetings.

Before I offer any advice, let me tell you a little about my situation, so that you know where I am coming from.

I am thirty years old, and have, over the years, had six sexual partners. I also have a child of ten years old, who lives with his mother and her husband. Now, I am sure that you might think, given that information alone, that I am some sort of manwhore. I am not. Things have simply worked out poorly for me, where the ladies are concerned. My first girlfriend tore me apart on the inside, serial cheating being the foremost of the tools she used to complete my emotional vivisection.

My second is the mother of my child, and we were engaged to be married. Unfortunately, her family poured poison in her ear about me, poison which she allowed to colour her opinion of me, which lead to the catastrophic collapse of our relationship, which in turn caused me to have a nervous breakdown, bordering on a psychotic break. Years of anguish followed.

The third ceased her association with me after a short dalliance, declaring that she could no longer continue to be with me, because she had sobered up, by which it was meant that no one would be dating me if they could see straight. Classy lady.

The fourth was a lady from up North, with whom I had been communicating via the internet for some time. She got back with an ex of hers, citing the remote nature of our relationship as cause for her to seek more local companionship.

The fifth was a lady from closer to home, who had the same issue regardless of our closer proximity to one another.

The sixth... The sixth was the most gorgeous woman I have ever laid eyes on, physically at least. It took five years for me to learn that she was also rotten to the core, which she proved to me by choosing to spend her time with a convicted possessor of indecent images of children, rather than spending it with me. Again, crushed by circumstances unforeseen, and unforeseeable.

What I am getting at, anobody, is that I have loved, and lost, and although the trite epithets and truisms oft applied to that situation might well suggest otherwise, if I could take back every wasted kiss, every stolen heartbeat of my time, every ounce of the emotion I have misspent in my life, then I would. It most certainly is NOT better to have loved and lost, than never to have loved at all. It is a source of aggravation to me that circumstances have lead me to ever have to enter into more than one relationship. All I wanted, ever since I was cognitively capable of considering the possibility, was to fall in love, once and for ever, to marry, have children, and live and love together in peace till time or tribulation ended my mortal journey. I never wanted to play the field, never wanted to sew wild oats or any of that claptrap, locker room nonsense.

Life, my dear chap, has shown me that for all the romance in my soul, and all the best intentions in my heart, there is no place for a gentleman in today's world, and that is never truer than in the realm of relationships. My path through that element of life has left me with but one positive, one boon and ever present source of joy, and that is the existence of my son. If it were not for him, I would consider the entire exercise to have been one in futility and sorrow, of no value what so ever, save to provide scars to remind me of my folly.

Now, I hope that you find what you are looking for, but I would caution you that it is not the case that getting a thing under ones belt will always leave a positive feeling. It is VERY easy to get ones heart torn out and stamped on, so do not bemoan your lack of experience so thoughtlessly. In a lot of ways, I consider you a fortunate man, to be able to enter into whatever relationship you might have in your future, never having been damaged by previous experiences.

Best of luck old chap, and fear not. The march of years is not nearly as important as it might seem to be!






posted on Nov, 19 2015 @ 05:44 AM
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hey
try seekingarrangement
a sugar baby is not a true prostitute, at least not that one i found!
she is more like an f-buddy. she helps me out, i help her out.
but we go on adventures, have fun. she is way younger than me, so i know nothing will ever come of it, but that is why its good. i will never delusionally start to dig on her, which would ruin the fun.

the reason i suggest it?
because i get her ADVICE and point of view!
and of course, sex.

yes i help her with her bills, but she helps me with things too.

my ex was an alcoholic. most people hang out with their exes after the break up. not me, i never had to rely on that, i just went and hung out with the sugar baby.

also, i do not know about the other guys, but i have been with a bunch of hookers who were my friend as well. they always wanted to hang out afterwards and get pizza.

but if you want a true gfe, and that is the way to go for ultimate smooth out, then a sugar baby is the way.

and again, she gives me advice, how to talk to girls, how to text girls, she has even texted girls i met to help me get dates. she never insists, but she for sure gives advice.

a sugar baby is a PERFECT segway into a girlfriend for you. here is why

1. you will learn how to kiss, interact, and have sex with a girl. there is no pressure, because you guys are just buddies.
2. when you do meet a girl, you will not 'need' sex, because you got the sugar baby on the side.
ask or watch any of those 'master dater' tv shows, you can never let a girl know you are desperate for sex. yes she can know you want sex, because you are a man, BUT you cannot be desperate.

i study relationships and sex. there is so much animal kind of things going on, like a girl can sense how high your testosterone levels are!

so if you are 'desperate' for sex, she can sense it.
but the sugar baby solves that problem.

work out every day, and get a sugar baby for sex. those 2 lifestyle choices will boost your endorphins into overtime.

you can do anything, but its pretty cool to know i have 2-3 days week to go to dinner, movies, bars, and then sex afterwards. yes it costs money, but its way worth it to keep me busy while i figure out what kind of girl to date next!

last, the sugar baby i met, i helped her finish college and get a full time job, a CAREER job no less.
this is why i say we are more f-buddies than anything else.
i do help her with cash, but she is using it for student loans, supplies, etc.

pm me if you want to learn how to set it up!

i also have trouble meeting girls, so i have been going to hookers since 18. again, this helps me, im NOT doing it to indulge in things, i would go to keep my spirits up. i ALWAYS used condoms as well.

but i will tell ya this, when i admitted to my first girlfriend, when i was in my 30's no less, that i never had a girlfriend, she was not too weirded out. i never told her i went to hookers, i knew i was healthy, i get tested on the regular, and again i always use condoms.

but i told her, hey you are my first girlfriend, and she never really even blinked an eye!



posted on Nov, 19 2015 @ 06:01 AM
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Don't ever think no one cares. Someone always cares, you may just not know them yet. We're all meant to love someone. If I didn't believe this I'd be fine for long ago. There are others like you. I myself am 34, I've dated only 5 guys, married one of those. I've never been with someone I really wanted. Seems like they're never interested. If I'd never settled I'd be in the very same boat, but I don't recommend settling. Small town in N.C. Doesn't have many matches lol. I really hope you find what you're looking for. ❤ a reply to: anobody



posted on Nov, 19 2015 @ 06:06 AM
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a reply to: TrueBrit

I feel you man, I really appreciate you posting this.



posted on Nov, 19 2015 @ 06:11 AM
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a reply to: ElOmen

Well, someone has to learn from my mistakes.

I have, but it took me far to long to appreciate the lesson. Hopefully someone will read this and find it useful to them in preventing avoidable folly and heartache.



posted on Nov, 19 2015 @ 06:12 AM
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a reply to: dantanna

I think i saw a documentary on this once...


edit on 19-11-2015 by ElOmen because: (no reason given)



posted on Nov, 19 2015 @ 06:13 AM
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Look at the bright side, you don't ever have to worry about an std.



posted on Nov, 19 2015 @ 06:19 AM
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originally posted by: reldra

originally posted by: trollz
a reply to: anobody

You might not feel confident talking to women, but many guys don't. The trick is to fake it. Seriously. If you look confident, people will think you are and react differently to you, thereby increasing your confidence.
I saw a cute girl in a coffee place once, so I walked right up to her and said "Hey, you're kinda cute. Can I have your number?" It caught her completely off guard, and she gave me her number.
So... Pretend you're confident, and you'll just kindof naturally become confident. Also realize that the vast majority of people are worrying more about themselves than they're thinking about whatever ways you may have seemed awkward. Simply put, nobody cares if you're an awkward social failure, so have at it without concern.


I am not sure our Op is ready for that.


You say that you aren't sure that the op is ready for that, yet your 'nugget' of advice in an earlier post was:



Seeking the services of an escort is a good idea at this point.


How odd.




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