It looks like you're using an Ad Blocker.

Please white-list or disable AboveTopSecret.com in your ad-blocking tool.

Thank you.

 

Some features of ATS will be disabled while you continue to use an ad-blocker.

 

I'm 28 years old, I've never had a girlfriend or kissed anyone ever

page: 3
42
<< 1  2    4  5  6 >>

log in

join
share:

posted on Nov, 19 2015 @ 01:50 AM
link   
a reply to: anobody

A couple of guys on here have given you the answer already.

Do this go to the travel agent and buy a ticket for Thailand get of the plane get the first taxi to Pattaya go to the bar and pick a girl.

I guaranty your problems will be over that is if you ever return. It is a matter of confidence you ant got any by the time you get back you will have.

Good luck




posted on Nov, 19 2015 @ 01:57 AM
link   
I just hit thirty yesterday. I have four kids, the oldest is eight. I had to plow through women from the age of sixteen until 21 when I found the right lady to raise the children I wanted. You will notice the most common recurring thing here is confidence . It merely starts with the very trivial act of engaging in dialogue with another person that you find interesting. Do not simply chase what is appealing to your eyes. There are way too many wonderful beautiful personalities and lives being looked over simply because a brainwashed persons desire for the establishment's idea of perfection Goddess style. As a result of the pressure to live up to that standard, many of the most astonishing babes around become very horrible people internally who only lust for wealth and influence.



So remember, confidence, friendship, and respect. That is where you begin. You have hobbies, I don't care how isolated you portray yourself you have hobbies. There are other women who will share that hobby with you. It could be something as simple as clipping your favorite shoes out of catalogues and saving them in a scrapbook. Yea completely random right?? Well there are thousands of people who share that very same thing. Do some research. Check your local community for a social group that shares this hobby with you and check out their meetings and events if applicable.

No matter how much confidence, respect and friendship you have to offer, you will always do better in an environment where you feel more comfortable and at ease. For you, I sincerely believe it will be related to one of your most favorite hobbies. Give it a shot man, I know it will happen to you. If you at least actually go through with any advice on here, I know in my heart your very life as you have lived it will change before the end of the year. Not saying you will be engaged and knocked her up with twins, just saying that the same boring road you allude to being tired of driving on will suddenly make an exciting and spontaneous turn into an adventure of a lifetime.

So dont sit around thinking about it, just DO IT!

go now, DO IT!



posted on Nov, 19 2015 @ 02:08 AM
link   
a reply to: anobody
Aside from the 'fat chicks' comment (Whamihere *smack*), seeking the services of an escort is a good idea at this point.
Tell her how much experience you lack and that you would like GFE. Don't be shy in saying that. Too much time has past. Seize the day.

After that, you need some sort of therapy for anxiety and depression.

Now, go off...be free...




posted on Nov, 19 2015 @ 02:11 AM
link   

originally posted by: anobody
Maybe the problem is I take myself too seriously sometimes and in conversations with others I run out of topics in my head, don't know what to say, it's like I've thought of everything in my head already. Possible answers, possible consequences, you name it. Maybe I'm the best conversation killer, haha


I feel you.



posted on Nov, 19 2015 @ 02:11 AM
link   

originally posted by: MAC269
a reply to: anobody

A couple of guys on here have given you the answer already.

Do this go to the travel agent and buy a ticket for Thailand get of the plane get the first taxi to Pattaya go to the bar and pick a girl.

I guaranty your problems will be over that is if you ever return. It is a matter of confidence you ant got any by the time you get back you will have.

Good luck


Do not send him to Thailand. He will have HIV before he has a girlfriend. Or mugged or killed. He needs a normal, US escort that uses a condom and no funny stuff in a clean place or his place.
edit on 19-11-2015 by reldra because: (no reason given)



posted on Nov, 19 2015 @ 02:13 AM
link   
The only person keeping you from having a wonderful relationship is you. Don't be so hard on yourself. You are just as good as anyone else. Get out there and smile and be yourself, but have some confidence in yourself. I wish you all the best.



posted on Nov, 19 2015 @ 02:14 AM
link   
a reply to: AmericanRealist

Good points, but I must criticise you and the other posters saying confidence is everything.

You fail to realise that people can not just change their psyche and personality at the snap of fingers. We are who we are. There are quiet people in the world and there are loud people. There are extrovert people and there are insular people.

The problem is that certain male and female characters are starving themselves or being starved of affection.

As a guy I don't want to find a loud ego girl. I would like to meet 4' 11 dreadlocked quiet African girl who understates her wisdom and intelligence and is more a 1 to 1 person than life and soul of the party. I don't want life and soul of the party, no, no, no. I am more interested in the gentle intelligent people.

There are many girls like me. They don't want Mister Star of the Football Team either. It is just that our sort of characters have problems meeting like minded souls. I would have hoped the internet might have been able to answer this problem. Yet dating sites are just more of the same problem. They reflect the real world instead of challenging and changing it. There is also the huge obstacle of TRUST. We are exposing ourselves to every evil scammer in the world quite literally and don't get a chance to create trust other than with a few typed words (that come cheap) and a silly little portrait picture (usually photoshopped, lol).

Just on the off chance, lol. Is there any nice UK girl (preferably Black, Jewish or Asian with Bi Polar disorder) who likes intelligent folk singers who looks quite handsome, are very fit, looks much younger than his age, very gifted guitar player, very well read, lives in a cottage by the sea and has all the time in the world for fun and a little spare cash, too. If so, hit me up. Conspiracy Girls are a firm favourite with me, lol. Bi polar people are as wild and fun as you can get with a great imagination, to boot.

No??? Thought so! Oh well, one can but try! I live in hope, but don't let me go to waste and be fed to the Amsterdam ladies of the night who will get my future spare cash, hahahaha!!!!

edit on 19-11-2015 by Revolution9 because: (no reason given)



posted on Nov, 19 2015 @ 02:17 AM
link   
a reply to: MAC269

you know, it scares me why someone would pay more than the cost of a decent American whore in travel alone to fly to a far away land searching for a lay in some down trodden bar in a creepy red light district. What exactly is being chased there that is not available right here in the states huh???

If we all going to share advice on picking up chicks, I may as well share one of my more successful methods of finding a very diverse selection of new and interesting people to meet. I started it in school actually in eight grade when I realized there are whole wings of students I do not see regularly and do not get the opportunity to speak with.

I would just go to the library and chat with any girl I did not already know. It did not mean I was trying to hook up with them. I simply expanding my network of people I know. It how I have always worked. I may only see or speak with that person six times the entire year, but now SHE knows ME. It is not just oh that guy whos name is this in that class over there and vica versa. We talked, we shared stories, expanded our background, laughed and walked away as friends.

So just doing this you will always know so many women, that there will always be one "with a friend in need" , or a desire to make an ex jealous, or I want to " date this hot guy but he has a twin sister who wants to meet someone new. come with me and do a double" yadda yadda or just get lucky and have the occasional DTF friends who needs some compassion between boyfriends.

As I got older of course we tend to get cockier. I decided to start hitting up book stores like Barnes and Noble and Borders (how I miss thee) and would refine the art of bull#. So if I scoped out a nice lady that I thought I would like to meet, I look to see where shes at in reference to book section and just come up with something related. "oh hey I noticed you are looking at historical cars, and it just so happens I was doing some research on a restoration I am working on (BS, I got no hot rods or classic vehicles) what do you think of 'X' topic in regards to 'Y' problem" (where x and y can be any damn variable about any dang subject) . Share a few pieces of info, if you got anything you know for certain make yourself look good when possible
. Hopefully if you are a charming friendly person with a little bit of tact, the conversation will be jovial and cheerful as well.

Do not focus too much on that topic though, it was just BS (or legit) to get a conversation started. Once you get introductions out of the way, pull an American Hustle on them. Hopefully you have presented yourself as a cool, smart, friendly personality during all this and someone that that person would not mind being around. So bail and be like "hey I gotta go though (anything that you can come up with, had prepared, or an actual thing to do whatever), it was nice talking. Would you like to grab a bite to eat or a coffee some time??"

Oh I know, typical cliche Hollywood textbook relationship entry 101 right?? Well that is how much of human interactions occur. Dialogue. Not emails, texts, or video chats. In person talking. So it is no surprise most relationships will meet in some variation of this scenario. Could be the oil change place where the young lady is the clerk, or the grocery store cashier, even the young woman at the counter of the clerk of the courts office where your paying your speeding ticket. Just have to speak up man, lots of wonderful human beings whos story wants to be heard. Lets us all make a sincere effort to here them all, just dont forget to call the next day



posted on Nov, 19 2015 @ 02:26 AM
link   
a reply to: AmericanRealist
You are right. Getting a conversation started has ended in my greatest loves. University. Bar. Internet. ...I was walking down a street in a park with my best friend at 1am..as a Freshman in highschool when I met the boy that became my boyfriend throughout high school and at times after high school.

However, for the OP, these times have past. That is why more direct means have been suggested.

edit on 19-11-2015 by reldra because: (no reason given)



posted on Nov, 19 2015 @ 02:29 AM
link   
a reply to: reldra

When he achieves the deed he can sing this with me until then, I'll put in a word to the magic man in the sky.




posted on Nov, 19 2015 @ 02:32 AM
link   
a reply to: seaswine

Listen to this guy. 👍

Gftow.
edit on 19-11-2015 by Wide-Eyes because: (no reason given)



posted on Nov, 19 2015 @ 02:32 AM
link   
Go see a specialist and get checked for depression and/or possibly being on the autistic spectrum.

You might think it's offensive I suggest something like that but if you truly want to get better you have to acknowledge you are not happy with your life and that you have some issues with social interactions.



Also don't do this unless you want to become even more bitter and lose all faith in humanity:

originally posted by: stabstab
a reply to: anobody

Try looking into some of this thing called mgtow and just remember you can still have fun but just realize society has stacked the odds of staying happily married against you with our nations divorce rate.
www.goingyourownway.com...
Take what you will from it.

edit on 19-11-2015 by gggilll because: (no reason given)



posted on Nov, 19 2015 @ 02:36 AM
link   

originally posted by: TechniXcality
a reply to: reldra

When he achieves the deed he can sing this with me until then, I'll put in a word to the magic man in the sky.



LOL. I would not expect less from you.

That is literally the funniest music video I have ever seen. But also true, I think, from a guy's point of view.

edit on 19-11-2015 by reldra because: (no reason given)



posted on Nov, 19 2015 @ 02:40 AM
link   
a reply to: anobody ever tried the app tinder? Lots people willing to put out, the more calls you make the more sales you get. Start of just dating lots of girls, get the feel of what women like and what they want to talk about, buy them wine, tell them they look really attractive, lie. You'll work it out. Start your way at the bottom and move up n quality as you get better at it. Treat it like a game, don't take it seriously



posted on Nov, 19 2015 @ 02:43 AM
link   

originally posted by: woodwardjnr
a reply to: anobody ever tried the app tinder? Lots people willing to put out, the more calls you make the more sales you get. Start of just dating lots of girls, get the feel of what women like and what they want to talk about, buy them wine, tell them they look really attractive, lie. You'll work it out. Start your way at the bottom and move up n quality as you get better at it. Treat it like a game, don't take it seriously


I have it on my phone, I have looked at it twice. I have not once swiped the direction that indicates I like a guy. Maybe one day, who knows?

I just noticed 'the more calls you make the more sales you get'. I used to renew magazine subscriptions over the phone, the worst were 1/10. The better magazines, especially ones that had been bought as gift subscriptions as gifts before were 6/10. So you are right there.
edit on 19-11-2015 by reldra because: (no reason given)



posted on Nov, 19 2015 @ 02:43 AM
link   
a reply to: AmericanRealist

You are not getting it at all. I keep telling you that there are people who don't like all the superficial premeditated games.

I don't want to go round looking for women and having to manipulate them as though they are goods on supermarket shelves. I don't want short term partners. I don't want to keep repeating that same old bs I had more than a stomach full of earlier in my life that brought me nothing but emotional grief.

I thought women were free now. I thought women could be the ones to start conversations if they so please. I thought women might now start taking the initiative. That is the kinda woman I want to meet.

You stay in your Cheerleader - Footballer understanding of relationships, that is fine. It seems to be the only recipe that works in this imagination starved world. Me, I am on a search for The Holy Grail of womanhood; a one to one alternative and imaginative woman who is free of the shackles of brainwashed society. I think they probably don't exist quite yet, but may be one day they will. Mean while I'll keep fighting for a social environment that makes the likelihood of such women existing more of a possibility.


edit on 19-11-2015 by Revolution9 because: (no reason given)



posted on Nov, 19 2015 @ 02:45 AM
link   

originally posted by: woodwardjnr
a reply to: anobody ever tried the app tinder? Lots people willing to put out, the more calls you make the more sales you get. Start of just dating lots of girls, get the feel of what women like and what they want to talk about, buy them wine, tell them they look really attractive, lie. You'll work it out. Start your way at the bottom and move up n quality as you get better at it. Treat it like a game, don't take it seriously



Please read my criticism. Not everyone wants to do this.



posted on Nov, 19 2015 @ 02:46 AM
link   

originally posted by: gggilll
Go see a specialist and get checked for depression and/or possibly being on the autistic spectrum.

You might think it's offensive I suggest something like that but if you truly want to get better you have to acknowledge you are not happy with your life and that you have some issues with social interactions.



Listen man, there is nothing wrong with his head, only the way he was taught to interact with other humans. It happens very often in households where the biggest originator of critical thought was some form of illuminated screen, or well to do parents who work 10 hours a day to pay a stranger to watch their kids all day, or broken homes. It is a simple method of having someone he knows with a little bit more social experience to bring him into a comfortable setting where he can initiate and overcome whatever fears related to being friends with our fellow humans. And whatever you do, stay away from meds if you are not already on them.

The trick is to keep you on them, because when you stop bad things happen dont they?? Nice way to ensure a permanent source of income huh?? Get someones brain hard wired to depend on synthetic drugs that they will now have to pay for or face the consequences of the chance of becoming very hostile and aggressive towards ones self and others. This is how most mass shooters and killers become triggered. Failure to adhere to a strict regiment of drugs that have catasrophic consequences to the brain with haphazard usage.



posted on Nov, 19 2015 @ 02:47 AM
link   

originally posted by: Revolution9
a reply to: AmericanRealist

You are not getting it at all. I keep telling you that there are people who don't like all the superficial premeditated games.

I don't want to go round looking for women and having to manipulate them as though they are goods on a supermarket shelves. I don't want short term partners. I don't want to keep repeating that same old bs I had more than a stomach full of earlier in my life that brought me nothing but emotional grief.

I thought women were free now. I thought women could be the ones to start conversations if they so please. I thought women might now start taking the initiative. That is the kinda woman I want to meet.

You stay in your Cheerleader - Footballer understanding of relationships, that is fine. It seems to be the only recipe that works in this imagination starved world. Me, I am on a search for The Holy Grail of womanhood; a one to one alternative and imaginative woman who is free of the shackles of brainwashed society. I think they probably don't exist quite yet, but may be one day they will. Mean while I'll keep fighting for a social environment that makes the likelihood of such women existing more of a possibility.



You have an entire understanding for yourself since you have been through it and found something that works for you. Our Op has not.

That is really too complicated for an immediate problem.

edit on 19-11-2015 by reldra because: (no reason given)



posted on Nov, 19 2015 @ 02:49 AM
link   
a reply to: anobody

You might not feel confident talking to women, but many guys don't. The trick is to fake it. Seriously. If you act confident, people will think you are and react differently to you, thereby increasing your confidence.
I saw a cute girl in a coffee place once, so I walked right up to her and said "Hey, you're kinda cute. Can I have your number?" It caught her completely off guard, and she gave me her number.
So... Pretend you're confident, and you'll just kindof naturally become confident. Also realize that the vast majority of people are worrying more about themselves than they're thinking about whatever ways you may have seemed awkward. Simply put, nobody cares if you're an awkward social failure, so have at it without concern.
edit on 11/19/2015 by trollz because: (no reason given)




top topics



 
42
<< 1  2    4  5  6 >>

log in

join