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I'm 28 years old, I've never had a girlfriend or kissed anyone ever

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posted on Nov, 20 2015 @ 03:25 PM
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Hi, anobody.

I'm 39 turning 40 and I too have never had a girlfriend nor kissed anyone ever, either.

I'm just like you. I don't what your situation is, but I still live with my parents.

I've had.. I don't know how many times I've had a female member of the society showing great interests in getting to know me better, as if she wanted me to date me.

I've made some of them cry, because they knew I didn't let anyone near me and I didn't let them either.

When I went to a junior high, I made a girl cry by refusing to dance with her. She quietly disappeared that night, but I didn't really care. I went outside to take some fresh air and saw her crying alone sitting on the stairs. We made an eye contact. Guess what I did. I walked away from her and I heard her weeping behind me.

I made another girl cry after SHE asked me to go to dance with her. She was very beautiful sister of one of my buddies at that time. We had this cruise ship dance where the school rented a ship and had seniors cruise around the city at night. A lot of fireworks.. that night was absolutely beautiful. A Halloween dance, yeah. That was a Halloween dance where everyone showed up with costumes.

I was going to at least talk to her that night, but I saw her wearing a Playboy bunny earpiece. Then I felt "WTF?" and didn't talk to her and avoided her all night on the ship.

When we were walking out of the ship after the cruise I met her but walked away without talking to her.

When she went home her brothers were stunned by her reaction. They asked what kind of gentleman I was and she refused to talk while in tears. The brothers called me to visit their house and they almost bushwhacked me as I walked out of my car in their parking lot -- goddamn. They wanted to know why their sister was so upset and I was like "WTF, dudes? How would I know why she's upset? Ask her?"

The thing is I had no idea why they were all so upset about what I did.

I had other attractive ladies showing similar interest after those incidents. I don't know.. how many.. I can think of at least 5.

They were not neighborhood sluts by the way. I lived in the richest neighborhood back then and they lived in multi-million dollar homes.

I ignored all of them because I was not interested in getting to know them.

The latest one occurred very recently.

I had this woman who took great interest in me and I ignored her as usual.

She was my co-worker and I saw her weeping at her desk after I showed my usual "I'm not interested in getting to know you" type of behavior. Need an example? Other women at work arranged me to be with her alone at one of the office parties. I knew the women arranged that because she always talked about me and told them how she's interested in getting to know me and date me and stuff. (One of the old ladies told me that.) That day, she was probably afraid I wasn't going to talk to her, so she pretended she was getting foods and heard me approaching the food table from behind. I didn't talk to her at all that moment and I think she was already in tears fearing I might just walk away and I did.

Guess what happened next. I saw her weeping at her work desk.

Sigh..

Do you believe in Cupid? I didn't until that day.

It was like a curse. I couldn't stop thinking about her. She appeared in my dream crying and one of the dreams was hearing about her committing suicide. I burst into tears when I heard that; and woke right up. I've never had a dream so real and that was scary. I think she hexed me or cast a love spell of some sort.

Guess what I did.

I quit. I walked out the best job in the country. One of 5 best companies to work for and everyone wants to work for that company and I walked out because of her. Because from that day she was always on my mind and I couldn't stop thinking about her.

It was like cupid constantly shooting arrows at me asking me to go and talk to her.

Should I? Hell no.

Now my life got f__ked and I think I deserved just that.

I now live off my parents pension like a loser in the #tiest neighborhood and.. f__k.. this just got me thinking.. I turned into the sore loser who I despised the most.

Do I regret this decision? No, I don't. Because there's no way I'll let anyone come near me, period.

By the way, women are like scariest predatory animals you can encounter if you provoke them.

Such provocation can be triggered without you knowing and they can turn your life into living hell.

I've had horrible incidents each time after I made women upset by rejecting them. They always gathered and grouped up and worked like organized criminals to make sure my life gets ruined.

Anyway, anobody. Nice to meet you and good luck.




posted on Nov, 20 2015 @ 03:44 PM
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a reply to: Doodle19815




Develop a corny joke


I got this one.

Guy goes to a doctor, really freaked out.

"Doc, I'm freaking out! I'm a wigwam, I'm a teepee, I'm a wigwam, I'm a teepee!"

Doc, in his best Aaron Rodgers voice, says, "Relax, you are two tents".

Easy to remember and it works on everyone, except those who don't know what a wigwam is. Seriously, it's as corny as all hell but it works everywhere.



posted on Nov, 20 2015 @ 04:05 PM
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originally posted by: indigocld

I've had horrible incidents each time after I made women upset by rejecting them. They always gathered and grouped up and worked like organized criminals to make sure my life gets ruined.


No offense, but right here sounds like you made your own life Hell just to avoid a female's mood swings?

"Fear is not real. The only place that fear can exist is in our thoughts of the future. It is a product of our imagination, causing us to fear things that do not at present and may not ever exist. That is near insanity. Do not misunderstand me danger is very real but fear is a choice."
-Fresh Prince



posted on Nov, 20 2015 @ 04:21 PM
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a reply to: Butterfinger

I am fairly certain that he was just trolling. So lets toss him a cookie and hope he only created that account solely to post his stupidity and never posts again under that name.

Habitual addiction to virtual displays is also a cause of inadequate social skills, lack of confidence, and fear of the opposite sex. Cut screen time and increase real world and people time in order to regain confidence.



posted on Nov, 20 2015 @ 04:26 PM
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originally posted by: AmericanRealist
a reply to: Butterfinger

I am fairly certain that he was just trolling. So lets toss him a cookie and hope he only created that account solely to post his stupidity and never posts again under that name.

Habitual addiction to virtual displays is also a cause of inadequate social skills, lack of confidence, and fear of the opposite sex. Cut screen time and increase real world and people time in order to regain confidence.


I still vote Hooker...

Cause, at 28 I wasn't so picky...A Virgin love story isn't going to happen.

I'm going out on a limb...Try Sex, I'm betting you like it.



posted on Nov, 20 2015 @ 05:24 PM
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a reply to: anobody

are u really shy or are you scared of rejection? imo, there's no such thing as a personality. but what some people on here say is true though, u need to get rejected so ur no longer afraid. then u can interact better. not sure how u made out of college without kissing a girl though...



posted on Nov, 20 2015 @ 08:41 PM
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a reply to: TheSpanishArcher

Well, you got me to smile. 😄



posted on Nov, 20 2015 @ 09:07 PM
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There is nothing wrong with what you posted. You are only feeling sad because of what society deems is necessary but in reality it really isn't. If you are in North America, the people here really don't know what they are doing and waste themselves in relationships anyway, uncontrolled sexuality, cheating, divorce, etc. Travel abroad and you will surely find a great woman. You are only suffering because your mind has created an expectation/desire and you haven't acquired what you wanted. Let go of your desires to not suffer. This is a dark age in this world, at least make some good money (if you haven't already) so you can support the relationship you need. A girlfriend is a waste of time, unless your girlfriend will be your wife. Enjoy your days and don't place feelings of self-doubt in your own mind. You will manifest an opportunity easily, know when the chance comes though and act on it. Do, don't overthink. Be lucid in your life. Best of luck.



posted on Nov, 20 2015 @ 09:17 PM
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a reply to: indigocld

Nice story bro, I am calling B.S. You clearly either made the entire post up, or inserted a lot of lies, because you clearly knew why you upset them. Fortunately, nothing in your story rings true at all.
edit on 11/20/2015 by calstorm because: (no reason given)



posted on Nov, 20 2015 @ 09:18 PM
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I still vote Hooker...

Cause, at 28 I wasn't so picky...A Virgin love story isn't going to happen.

I'm going out on a limb...Try Sex, I'm betting you like it.


Not always true.

Only had sex once and good god it was awful. I have autism and other mental illness which I'm sure contributed.

Just pointing out that your bet isn't always a sure thing.

For the OP I'm in a similar spot. 26 years old. Had a bit more attention from females than you but it was super awkward for me and I never let it get past a certain point.

I just had to learn to be alone. There's some kind of mental break I have where I'll never live/love like most people do. I struggle with it to this day I think my purpose is to come to terms with it.
edit on 20-11-2015 by corvuscorrax because: (no reason given)



posted on Nov, 20 2015 @ 11:15 PM
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a reply to: indigocld

It is more than a coincedence that all these ladies cried because you rejected them... Anyways, sometimes I think it is some kind of status to have a girlfriend or to be married.

The way the internet is promoting heartless sex isn't contributing to lasting relationships let alone succesfull marriages that will last. If this is done with a purpose..as part of somekind NWO agenda is an other thread.

What I do belief in is that happy families are the corner stone of a flourishing society.


edit on 20/11/2015 by zatara because: (no reason given)



posted on Nov, 20 2015 @ 11:29 PM
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Hang out in mixed groups. Tell a good buddy to invite his girlfriend and her friends to your barbecue. It's low pressure, and more fun than joining a yoga class. Cultivate fun activities with women.



posted on Nov, 21 2015 @ 04:37 AM
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a reply to: ElOmen

Bloody women! It shows their flaws more than yours. Grrrrr!!!

I really do despair of my sex.



posted on Nov, 21 2015 @ 06:30 AM
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a reply to: Butterfinger

No offense taken. My definition of Living Hell was being someone who can't find a new job after quitting. You all know there's usually no such thing as unemployment benefits for people who quit their jobs.



posted on Nov, 21 2015 @ 06:34 AM
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originally posted by: MrsNonSpecific
a reply to: ElOmen

Bloody women! It shows their flaws more than yours. Grrrrr!!!

I really do despair of my sex.


Dont blame women. Its the way society is raising todays generation and the trendy influences being pushed by the media and their own peers. At school i learned that woman are like pokemon and u gotta catch them all. At home my parents always taught me to get a nice bring home to mom kind of girl. I always looked up to my parents relationship and i guess that's why i am how i am now.



posted on Nov, 21 2015 @ 06:41 AM
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a reply to: AmericanRealist

I created this account to tell anobody what happened to my life 11 years ahead. I'm a simple man and I don't know why you're saying my post contained stupidity. It's not stupid to be confident, independent and be absolutely unwilling in seeking relationships.

Well.. I still live with my parents at 39, like a leech, so I think I can't really say that I'm independent.



posted on Nov, 21 2015 @ 07:00 AM
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a reply to: calstorm

Thank you for the compliment, calstorm.

I created this account to tell anobody what happened to my life 11 years ahead. I don't know why you're saying I inserted a lot of lies, because I clearly knew why I was upsetting them..(?)

I'm a simple man and I only acted the way I did, because it was my will to do so.

How they would react or feel toward my actions is none of my business, especially when they're free to ask other men around after getting rejected. I posted the weeping stories, because I couldn't understand why they were so upset and wanted to tell anobody that can happen to anyone.

I wanted to tell him some women take those actions as great insults and try to get even by any means necessary within their reach.

Had I been in an arranged marriage situation, I would have ran away just the way John Ruskin did with his wife Effie.

You can't call Nikola Tesla and Sir Isaac Newton liars just because they lived successful lives and died a virgin.

I'm sure I'll become successful one day just the way the great men of chastity did without seeking relationships.



posted on Nov, 21 2015 @ 07:04 AM
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a reply to: zatara

Yes, I agree with your view, Zatara. Happy families are very important aspect of a flourishing society.




posted on Nov, 21 2015 @ 09:25 AM
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originally posted by: Lysergic
a reply to: anobody

Have you considered buying Fallout 4?


I have the opposite problem...I just bought fallout 4 and I actually talked to a woman! I was so happy that I could sing.

'Bongo bongo bongo I don't want to leave the congo...'



posted on Nov, 21 2015 @ 12:48 PM
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I'm in the same boat as you OP, except I'm a little older. I wouldn't worry about it too much. I personally wouldn't listen to those saying to buy a prostitute, why take the easy sleazy way out? I reckon you'll feel guilty afterwards if you do that.

The problem is these days there are many shallow people out there, they may not admit it but I think it's true.




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