It seems there are some people who do somehow please everyone, but they suffer the terrible drawback of being a traitor to themselves. They get used,
abused and walked on - and not always by people who intend or desire to do so! If you don't make your boundaries clear, people will cross them without
even being aware they did.
I certainly will admit to the draw of wanting to have diplomatic and respectful relations with others.
I won't say "please them" because that has a slightly different implications. We are not always pleased with compromises, yet they can be more
desirable than a win-lose conclusion.
I think I've come to the point of view, at this time anyway, that sometimes exchanges are win-win and sometimes they aren't,
Sometimes one or the other is very NOT pleased. -Despite all efforts or attempts at finding a compromise.
I think this is where things like being polite has some meaning for me now. Though it could be said, with a measure of validity) that being polite can
sometimes be "fake". But I think without going into extremes of smiling and acting warmer than we need to, a certain self restraint and acceptation
that not only I cannot please everyone else, but everyone else cannot always please me, helps?
But I cannot either claim to be of infinite patience and passivity either- I have my limits, they just don't seem to always be so evident right away
to others.... I seem passive or apathetic, until they touch my boundaries, and I can react quite strongly. I think it surprises people sometimes.
Especially for people who see the world and others in a very polarized way- there are people who are passive and others that are active; there are
those that lay down to be doormats and others that walk on them.
"In between" is a bit confusing for some?
With time, my friends describe me thus- (and I heard one tell a coworker this a couple of months ago)- "She is a really nice person, but don't
underestimate her. She isn't stupid, and anyone who tries to take advantage of her regrets it."
That made me happy to hear, because, I guess, that is how I see myself, and it makes me feel that, for some humans in this world, at least, I have
been able to manifest and express myself authentically and comprehensively!
-And if there is a few that perceive me, than that makes up for the many who don't!!!
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