posted on Nov, 4 2015 @ 01:57 AM
originally posted by: Freenrgy2
If I'm on these forums and I sense that the mods aren't doing their job or that members are being chastised by other members because of their beliefs,
then I tend to write something in response. Last time it happened, I was post banned here for almost a month.
As far as discussion boards go (because it feels quite different to me than in real life) I don't tend to get angry or emotional in anyway. The lack
of physical presence and empathy allows my mind to deal with it unfettered.
I will have an ethical objection to things I witness too, like you. If I see someone repeatedly talking rudely and disrespectfully to others for
example... I won't feel angry, but I noticed I will engage in discussion with that person myself, to get them off others backs. Just a habit from
childhood, and trying to protect my younger siblings.
Then when they focus the rudeness and disrespect my way, I usually don't do the same (I honestly don't feel the desire to), but in observing my
patterns of behavior, I notice I will just try to keep their attention so they don't turn back on the others again. Like a rodeo clown waving colored
scarves around. It's pretty silly.
But it solves my problem - which is that even if I see someone being cruel to another, I simultaneously can see why they are doing it. It is often not
because they are "bad" people - it could be because they are afraid and are actually being defensive in their offensive behavior; or they just never
learned other ways of communicating; they may be subject daily to the treatment they are manifesting elsewhere, so need to get it out on someone
else... lots of really understandable reasons. So I feel the need to jump in, but don't want to hurt them either.
But I suspect that because I feel have some tools in pocket for DOING something when I see others being unjustly treated, that might be why anger
Anger often comes from a sense of being powerless in a situation.
edit on 4-11-2015 by Bluesma because: (no reason given)