posted on Oct, 30 2015 @ 03:28 AM
I tend to do two things- go out into nature, and scream and cry, first. I hope no one ever witnessed that, because it looks pretty crazy.
Then I write. I write and write and put thoughts into perceptive and organization.
I write as honestly as I can, about what I feel. Not "so-n-so is a jerk" but "when this person did this _______, I felt they had no respect or trust
in me, and I felt hurt. " type of statements.
Once I have sufficiently worked down to exactly what I felt, and understood myself, that is when I go confront the situation head on, without
planning. As long as I know where I stand and what exactly is bothering me, I can trust action and word to come forth from that.
So I am great at dealings when I can have the time for a delayed reaction. If I get in an argument with a loved one, for example, and can ask for a
pause to do that before attempting to find solutions.
But in cases where immediate action and confrontation are necessary, I basically cry a lot. I have a lot of resistance to lashing out with
aggressivity, and this causes me to turn it against myself instead, in more or less self destructive actions.
edit on 30-10-2015 by Bluesma
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