a reply to: InTheShadows
A child learns more from what they see than from what they are told.
I am willing to be bet that she has learned her kind and generous ways from her home environment.
I grew up poor as a church mouse, and never realized it until I was good and grown. The thing I remember most, was the kindest of my parents, they
always gave to others, even when they had such great needs themselves.
My parents had 10 children, 5 girls and 5 boys. I had never found anyone more generous than my father, until my brother stepped into his shoes. All of
us are gentle, kind, loving, and generous spirits, but my brother, like my father, was over the top.
My sister feed the poor in the park every Saturday. She provided them nice, healthy and tasty meals, and she always gave them hot meals in the
winter. My niece started helping her when she was two. My sister was so shocked when she went back to the park after being laid up for 3 months, after
cancer surgery and treatment, to find out that my niece had continued to go every week and feed the homeless. She never even mentioned to her mother
that she was doing it. The baton was passed. Now my sister is the helper and my niece does the preparations and deliveries.
My mother still says, "You have to bend the tree in the direction you want it to grow."
Parents have replaced parenting with friendship. I used to remind my children on almost a daily basis, that they have enough friends, it was not my
duty to them, nor my responsibility, to be their friend. My job was to teach them, protect them, and to grow them, and I loved them too much to cheat
them out of what they needed to succeed in a world poised to eat them alive, if they were not prepared.
So far it seems to have worked. I am even seeing them using some of my parenting skills on their own children.
You should be proud of your daughter, she sounds like a wonderful young lady. Also, take pride in yourself for a job well done.