posted on Oct, 17 2015 @ 06:21 AM
"Anyone can hold a grudge, but it takes real courage to forgive..." — Jigsaw.
Why is it that humans tend to hold grudges so easily? Most people like to think they are "above holding grudges" but it seems almost everyone holds
some type of grudge at some point throughout their lives. Of course, the tendency to hold a grudge would depend on the level of severity that another
organisation, team, family or individual has betrayed your trust, dominated you or mistreated you or your loved ones in the past.
Can grudges actually be released once they are formed? It would seem highly unlikely, unless there was a way to erase the negative memory associated
with that party. Even if one forgives another party, they are unlikely to forget. Therefore, it appears that if you are unwilling to forget as well,
then you are unlikely to truly forgive.
So what purpose does holding a grudge serve? Is it a defence mechanism to protect us from being burned again by the same party? After all, there can
be a fine line between forgiving somebody that made a one-off mistake and mistrusting those who love to take advantage of others.
Other than that, grudges seem limited in their potential to help us. They wastes energy that could be better spent doing something productive. They
makes us generally more sceptical and cynical. They make a dent in our spiritual evolution. They encourage us to live in the past. They limit the
potential to form new and meaningful relationships with new people. Overall, they act as a thorn to our mental health.
Are you the type of person who holds grudges easily, or does it take astronomical circumstances for you to hold one?