Since the excuse of being under influence is used just like in the other thread, here you go.
a reply to: Domo1
Alcohol. Often turns good people into A-holes and bad people into monsters.
No it does not.
If a person acts up like this kid, nor alcohol or any other substance is the reason - the reason lies deep in the person within. Give a healthy person
alcohol, the will giggle, laugh about unfunny things and sleep like a baby that night. No A-hole or monster coming out, why? Because there is none.
This kid has obvious problems with his self esteem. As everybody can see, he thinks he is better and more worth than the people in his surroundings
but because he never got the attention (his mind told him) he deserved his ego went into a defensive mode in which he told him, it’s not true that
he is like everybody else, he kept telling him he IS better and deserves MORE - he did this so long until he started believing his lie, until he
started to believe lies he was telling himself, until he created his own reality in his mind. A reality which is build upon lies and more lies so he
can protect him from other people and of course the biggest enemy - himself.
While being sober the ego is easier to control but as soon (in this case) as alcohol hits the system, the curtain falls. You start seeing yourself as
you are and again it comes down to the ego - either you fall to your knees crying, admitting your own mistakes and destroying the reality OR your ego
does everything it can to protect yourself and the reality you created and it will do anything thats necessary to defend it.
*enter substance here* is never the reason for a persons behaving, it is always the person’s ego - always. We people tend to blame mind altering
substances or mental sickness for our behavior, because guess what, than it wouldn’t be your fault. You can use the old „it was the *enter
substance here*“ excuse or „I have a mental sickness, I can’t help it“. But that again, is a lie, it’s again your ego which tries to protect
yourself with every means necessary.
Remember that TV producers kid that went on a rampage
which went on a rampage? Both
of this kids did the exact same thing in their head - this case shows it even better.
Again you have a major problem with self esteem. He always thought all boys want to be him and every girl to be with him. With this thought in his
mind he went through life but his ego never got what it needed.
His ego now has to directions it can head either he can face himself and realize you define yourself by your actions not by someone else’s. This
will hurt - there is probably nothing that hurts so much, like the realization you are not what you thought you were. The problem is, to head towards
this direction you need to be strong, strength you never needed for anything else and since this kid never had to be strong, guess whats gonna
Alone the thought of looking in the mirror without the blurred vision scares the ego so much that it will fight every doubt you have about yourself
and start telling yourself lies, lies which leads to constructing your own reality in which you can bend, change and manipulate anything you need to
keep up living that lie.
Being strong is hard, being weak is easy. Humans are weak, so they will always take the easy way.
The biggest challenge of the human mind is destroying the ego.