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Housemate from hell, help!

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posted on Oct, 5 2015 @ 09:17 AM
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Hello, i have a housemate who moved in a couple of months back.

I think she has mental problems.

She is up cleaning and hoovering at 4am. And when i asked her why she said it is because she has insomnia and cant sleep.
Well who in their right mind when they cant sleep, hoovers and mops instead.

The first day she moved in, she binned half the stuff in the kitchen, claiming it was disgusting, most of it because she assumed belonged to the previous housemates (even if it did she shouldnt be dumping it anyway).

She continuously tells us how supposedly filthy the house is, even though guests or the landlord say the house is perfectly clean.

She is constantly binning stuff, if you so much as leave a newspaper on the table for a few hours it will be in the bin.

All she ever talks to me about is mopping and cleaning nothing else.

This wouldnt be a problem normally, but every few days she is stressed or depressed and takes it out on me, knocking on my door late at night asking why i havent hoovered the house that day or things like that.

Whenever i tell her look you need to stop the obsessiveness and stressing, she apologises and says she didnt mean it that way. And then a few days later flips out again.

She is far from an angel, she smokes in the house, when it is a non smoking house, she re-arranges everything even though they arent hers. She constantly has strangers staying over, who i have no clue who they are, and stays up till late being loud making it hard for me to sleep. She in her mind has taken over the house as if it is hers.

I have told the landlord in the past, who always says well you and the other housemates need to talk to her, which we do, but then she flips out a few days later again.

I am a happy person, a positive person, i spend my life around happy people, im so sick of a depressive, miserable woman constantly stressing out at me all the time and screaming at me about cleaning the house when it is perfectly clean.

What should i do? The landlord doesnt seem to think it is his responsibility to tell her to stop bossing us around.
I dont want to move out as i have lots of friends in the area and i like being here.
I shouldnt feel stressed out and uncomfortable in the place i live in though.

If anyone could reply id appreciate it. A lot.
edit on 5-10-2015 by lamplighters because: (no reason given)




posted on Oct, 5 2015 @ 09:18 AM
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I fail to see the general conspiracy here.



posted on Oct, 5 2015 @ 09:18 AM
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PS if this is in the wrong section please move



posted on Oct, 5 2015 @ 09:19 AM
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Wasn't there a thread almost exactly like this a while back from a user named mouseygretchen?



posted on Oct, 5 2015 @ 09:19 AM
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a reply to: Atsbhct

I was just thinking that exact same thing??

Maybe the housemate from hell has moved?



posted on Oct, 5 2015 @ 09:20 AM
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a reply to: Atsbhct

Maybe they are the other roommate?



posted on Oct, 5 2015 @ 09:22 AM
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OCD is awesome.

I would just act like a total pig until they moved out.



posted on Oct, 5 2015 @ 09:23 AM
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a reply to: Lysergic

www.abovetopsecret.com...

Not mouseygretchen.



posted on Oct, 5 2015 @ 09:24 AM
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Sounds as if you have an addict in your midst. Meth or crack or something or other....

Find a way out where it (she) won't become vindictive and feel the need to make things more difficult for you as you make your escape.

Maybe try to find out what the problem is,but remember that some people (most) don't appreciate anyone correcting them other than themselves.

Sounds like the roomie is at least an out of control narcissist who doesn't (refuses to) realize anything is wrong and doesn't give a damn about anyone else.

People are messed up, most of them anyway.....



posted on Oct, 5 2015 @ 09:25 AM
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originally posted by: Atsbhct
Wasn't there a thread almost exactly like this a while back from a user named mouseygretchen?


can you link me it please



posted on Oct, 5 2015 @ 09:25 AM
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a reply to: lamplighters

Heard this one time and time again. Sorry, but to make any fair adjudication in this matter we need the other side of the story. Tell your house mate to create an ATS profile and give her side of the story.

Living alone is much better. Sharing with people is a right mind job these days. Humans are not very nice. Domestic civil war, lol.

Enjoy torturing each other.



posted on Oct, 5 2015 @ 09:25 AM
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originally posted by: Lysergic
a reply to: Atsbhct

Maybe they are the other roommate?


Nah that isnt her i saw the link, no cat here.
Sadly



posted on Oct, 5 2015 @ 09:26 AM
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a reply to: lamplighters


originally posted by: Atsbhct
a reply to: Lysergic

www.abovetopsecret.com...

Not mouseygretchen.



posted on Oct, 5 2015 @ 09:26 AM
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a reply to: lamplighters

Good, probably can't afford to have multiple people pissed that they have to pick up after you.



posted on Oct, 5 2015 @ 09:34 AM
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You and your roommates need to sit her down and have a "Household Meeting" akin to an "intervention". You should all say your piece including the "OCD Cleaner" and stake your cases. Explain that you have all had enough and if things don't change then you will need to give her notice to leave as you are not comfortable living in the conditions you are.

If she continues to knock on your door late at night asking why you had not hoovered up, tell her in no certain terms to "F****** Off". Do not pander to the woman as whilst it alleviates any issues presently, you are empowering her to continue with her Bull******. You really should have put your foot down on the first day and explained that she had no place to clean and bin everything in the kitchen and that if she does it again, she will need to replace anything that's been binned!

I'm from London and you can only afford to live with others in London due to the sky high rental prices, I've had many a nightmare tenant/lodger and always whopped arse if the need arose. Thankfully I now have my own house as I hated every minute of sharing my home with others and don't envy anyone that has to.




posted on Oct, 5 2015 @ 10:22 AM
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originally posted by: flammadraco
Thankfully I now have my own house as I hated every minute of sharing my home with others and don't envy anyone that has to.



You are lucky having your own place



posted on Oct, 5 2015 @ 10:27 AM
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a reply to: lamplighters

I imagine it is less down to luck and more down to hard work and a huge financial commitmnt fora very long time.

Unless of course he won it at the fairground of course



posted on Oct, 5 2015 @ 10:42 AM
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a reply to: AugustusMasonicus

I mean you no disrespect, but this kind of attitude really bothers me. Why people intentionally behave badly to disturb/annoy others in an attempt to change the others behavior is beyond me... You CANNOT change the way someone behaves. I currently have some neighbors who have been 'intentionally' disturbing (and mocking) me, and while it is annoying/disturbing, I have just grown a thicker skin because I am not in a position to move due to financial concerns.
Humans can adapt to just about anything. My question would be: why was this person allowed to move into the domicile without some sort of written agreement?



posted on Oct, 5 2015 @ 10:46 AM
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originally posted by: seattlerat
I mean you no disrespect, but this kind of attitude really bothers me.


It was a joke dude.



posted on Oct, 5 2015 @ 12:34 PM
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I don't have house mates but I have kids..
There are habits we can control and habits we really struggle with.

I agree you have a drug addict in your home.. I also think 4 am isn't a reasonable time to be making noise by law. So you may need to set boundaries and stick with them



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