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Dating someone you work with. good or bad idea? your experiences

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posted on Sep, 27 2015 @ 10:34 PM
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^ exactly what the title says, have any of you dated. wanted to, or known anyone who dated anyone they worked with.

my interest in this is because well.... I am really attracted to a certain girl at work. I started working there 6 months ago, just started being her friend a month ago, I don't know how well we would work. I know we have some differences in interest and religion but I still want to see how it'll be to date her but she had had horrible past relationships which puts me on that level of her not knowing if she should even trust me if I'm like those a**holes or a real loyal friend who wouldn't treat her bad, so I'm slowly getting there but I also feel we won't ever date or even get anywhere close like 1 lunch together, so that's my situation... that and even if we did date, or if she rejects me... I wouldn't want it to be awkward at work but of course we all know it can easily become awkward when not trying to

so ya... any of you with experiences and/or advice.. good or bad... please comment and explain




posted on Sep, 27 2015 @ 10:47 PM
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a reply to: saiyankev

Bad. Very bad idea. I have done this.

It goes like this.

You start to date. You start to bang. People start talking. People get all weird. Then you break up. Then she bangs someone new. And then you.....

1. Quit your job because you can't stand to see her give it up to some douche.

2. Stay at your job and watch some douche take that cool ass chick you once knew to lunch everyday.

Or

You keep it a secret. And all the above.


(post by Hijinx removed for a serious terms and conditions violation)

posted on Sep, 27 2015 @ 11:18 PM
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a reply to: saiyankev

I say go for it. My past 2 girlfriends have been coworkers so im speaking from experience. If your really into her why not? Just be sure it's not too much of a distraction from your work.



posted on Sep, 27 2015 @ 11:20 PM
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originally posted by: saiyankev
^ exactly what the title says, have any of you dated. wanted to, or known anyone who dated anyone they worked with.

my interest in this is because well.... I am really attracted to a certain girl at work. I started working there 6 months ago, just started being her friend a month ago, I don't know how well we would work. I know we have some differences in interest and religion but I still want to see how it'll be to date her but she had had horrible past relationships which puts me on that level of her not knowing if she should even trust me if I'm like those a**holes or a real loyal friend who wouldn't treat her bad, so I'm slowly getting there but I also feel we won't ever date or even get anywhere close like 1 lunch together, so that's my situation... that and even if we did date, or if she rejects me... I wouldn't want it to be awkward at work but of course we all know it can easily become awkward when not trying to

so ya... any of you with experiences and/or advice.. good or bad... please comment and explain


Bad idea, I've made the mistake of doing this not once,not twice,but thrice before I realized the mistake I was making. It usually goes how galaga said it does but it can go much worse.

1: people at work will notice your relationship and disaprove,treat you differently and if the boss knows about it you might even get threatened about being fired or having a pay demotion.

2:people at work will assume you guys are banging/making out at work and will always be watching you two after they find out.

3:everything might seem to be going to very well until the inevitable break up.(ask me why I had $7,000 in car repairs last year) People at work might shame and interrogate you and her about why you broke up adding more drama to the work space.

4:everything might go almost OK until you get home from work and find your house thrashed,your spare car keyed, and your new TV smashed to pieces in your driveway.

After experiencing only negative from dating co workers, I would recommend that you avoid it I've done a lot of dating and the only negative experiences I have had were dating co workers.
edit on 27-9-2015 by VashTheStampede because: Added extra info



posted on Sep, 27 2015 @ 11:22 PM
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a reply to: VashTheStampede

spare car.... you deserved it.



posted on Sep, 27 2015 @ 11:28 PM
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originally posted by: Hijinx
a reply to: VashTheStampede

spare car.... you deserved it.

Not really I have one for going to see my parents in the mountains cause you can't get there without 4 wheel drive. Of course I deserved it because I wanted to be able to see my parents before they die.



posted on Sep, 27 2015 @ 11:31 PM
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I dated a co-worker. She ended up marrying my best friend.








But we are all still best friends after a short time when I was not friendly toward either of them.

Could be good for you, could be not so good. You'll never know until you do!



posted on Sep, 27 2015 @ 11:35 PM
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Bad idea. Unless you don't care too much about changing your work.
If the relationship doesn't work, there will be a lot of unpleasant and awkward situations.
If it works, people at the work place will treat you differently and wait for any ups and downs in your relationship to gossip about.

Both cases, being at work place will become more complicated than is necessarily.
Rules of life I always followed: never date co-workers or neighbours. Never work in the same place as your love partner. It keeps life simpler.



posted on Sep, 28 2015 @ 12:08 AM
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It's up to you to decide this. It could work out or it could get ugly. At least you could save some money and carpool.



posted on Sep, 28 2015 @ 12:17 AM
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I often dated co-workers, and even since been married, worked with my wife.

What it comes down to is how well you separate work time from you time.
If you cannot look past a work relationship at home, you should not date at work.
If you take home life to work, you also should not date at work.

If you can keep the two separate, than you have no issue.



posted on Sep, 28 2015 @ 12:21 AM
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Really it depends.

I suggest getting to know her very well before jumping into anything serious. My last relationship was with a coworker and it ended terribly and screwed up my entire life. But that's because we jumped into it and I put too much faith into someone I still barely know.



posted on Sep, 28 2015 @ 12:53 AM
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a reply to: saiyankev
VERY BAD IDEA!! WARNING! WARNING!:

You don't see this written rule in the book of life you are given when born. That book tells you how to avoid financial and emotional pitfalls as you are growing up.
But it does not give guidance when you want to date some one at work. DON'T!! There is an old saying: Don't $#!& where you eat. Period.

Enough said.



posted on Sep, 28 2015 @ 01:02 AM
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a reply to: saiyankev

always ends badly for me, tried it twice. "You don't Sh@@ where you eat"



posted on Sep, 28 2015 @ 02:00 AM
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It depends on where you work. Restaurant or bar? It's a pretty common thing. An office with cubicles? Not such a good thing.



posted on Sep, 28 2015 @ 02:06 AM
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a reply to: saiyankev

All good...

You have something in common right off the bat... and you can work from there...

Who gives a flying F*** what your co-workers think




posted on Sep, 28 2015 @ 02:14 AM
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In general its a bad idea, especially if you are at a job you like and want to move up and/or make a career out of it.

The best thing to do is befriend the women you work with, and find women to date through them. You might be surprised, they may have friends even more attractive, funnier, smarter, and more interesting than themselves.

In my experience, women love to play matchmaker if you let them. If they know you really well, they often times will set you up with surprisingly good matches.



posted on Sep, 28 2015 @ 02:26 AM
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What the Burt Reynolds Archer guy said.



posted on Sep, 28 2015 @ 02:35 AM
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a reply to: saiyankev

my first kiss was during my first job at 14 she then regurgitated food into my mouth, needless to say we drank too much on the job. just my one and only work relationship that ive had, i vote no.


to be a kid again.............
edit on 28-9-2015 by DOCHOLIDAZE1 because: (no reason given)



posted on Sep, 28 2015 @ 05:33 AM
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Never # were you eat



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