posted on Jul, 26 2015 @ 03:11 AM
I understand and appreciate the state of awareness of "now", and being completely immersed in the experiencial present.
On the other hand, like anything else, it has effects and consequences in this material world that can be more or less beneficial, depending upon
circumstances of that particular momentary present.
This is a state of powerlessness in material and physical terms - it is a complete rendering of all power/responsibility in events and interactions
between the self and other, or internal and external world. It can be healing, comforting, create detachment from past and future thought and
It can be an effective sanctuary in times of worry, stress, discontent or suffering.I have found it can even make extreme physical pain tolerable -
the immersion in each present "now" removes the experience of pain from being a sustained in time.
It also leaves the responsibility/power of this exterior objective world to others around, as they focus on past and future, their behaviors and
choices determine the direction of events... that you will be submitted to.
It means denial of self, and with all the other selves around you not in the same state, they shall be exerting their individual will towards their
own desires and needs, not yours.
Except if those around in your "now" happen to be in relationship of empathy and trust with you, who agree to respect your boundries and needs in your
state of retreat.
This is why my husband and I came to an agreement to have such a relationship, in which we each alternate being powerful and powerless, to give each
other times of peace and selflessness, and other times of stimulating active self expression and responsibility.
You know, horses in a field will take turns standing guard against predators while the other lies down to rest. It is a surprisingly well adapted
Trying to retreat to this state/ experience on a permanent basis is what makes abuse and slavery possible. It is being an enabler, encouraging such
sorts of behaviors/relationships to exist. Refusing to step into power and leaving all responsibility to others makes it easy to judge them as "bad"
when they make mistakes with that burden, or when they fall prey to the downfalls of that role- of increasing selfishness, decreasing awareness of
other and empathy, possesiveness, jealousy, greed, corruption.....
But it remains a joint creation, which you played a part in, in denying responsibility and power.
Plus, trying to sustain it on a permanent basis makes the opposite drive (self expression) to still affirm itself, but in covert ways - like the overt
denial of ego accompanied by a covert denial and condemnation of all who are different from self.
In the OP, the demand for certain sorts of responses and attempt to avoid other ones, is not being "in the moment" with acceptation of all that is,
without thought of future consequence or past memory.... it is focusing exactly on those thoughts, and attempting to assert power over future.
There are times when delving into the release of power and responsibility is beneficial, appropriate, and good for you, other times when it is not,
and acknowledging the appropriateness of asserting personal power and expression is perfectly adjusted to the "now".