Guys , I'm not usually one to authors such posts but I'm at a loss.
My Fiancee split with me last week and banned me from any contact with Her Daughter who I have Loved/Supported and cared for for over 5 years.
During a very trying time for both of us 13 years ago we embarked on a wonderful Affair (yes , not everyone agrees but sometimes it just happens.)
Life dictated that we call it a day and continue with those Partners we had.
Years later in 2010 we met entirely at random. She had a 5 year old Daughter as was a single Mum. I was just coming out of a so so relationship
amicably. As friends who had not spoken for years we both agreed to keep in touch offering support where and when we could.
Not many people get a second stab at happiness but we did.
All the old feelings soon came back and we discussed me taking on her Daughter. I was cautious as I never had any Children myself but the Love I felt
for them both made that decision simple.
Her Daughter welcomed me with open arms and I learned very quickly how wondferful the unconditional love of a Child can be.
We both have (had) things in life to sort out some of which we both procrastinated over. These led to a litle underlying tension as everyone goes
through. Then ...
Sadly after a very short illness, Her Daughter was rushed to the Paediatric Unit for a seemingly routine Blood Transfusion. I waited until the early
hours with them and was told there was no point in us both hanging around and to come back at 9am.
Arrived on the Ward at 9am and told to sit down before She told me Her Daughter's Kidneys had failed. I wrote about the cause from the Renal Unit in
After a bout of Intensive Care and a number of weeks of Specialist Treatment in another City, She spent the next few Months as an In-patient at our
Local Hospital before being released as a 4 day a week Outpatient.
Last week Mum and I met in the Evening after I'd finished work as her Daughter was temporarily readmitted.
I was told I had to leave immediately and was to cease all contact with Her Daughter. Yes, we did have some little life stresses like most everyone
else but this has been magnified exponentially by Us nearly losing Her.
This may sound like a bit of sour grapes but why oh why become so adamant so suddenly?
I've been there for them for over 5 Years.I have also had the most amazing times of my Life with them.
We've even survived two concurrent Cancer scares as a Couple! (Thankfully we managed to keep those from Her Daughter)
I've been cast aside with no means of contact whatsoever. I've not even had a proper explanation.
Good People of ATS, I know nearly losing a Child has a major affect on you but why just drop me after all of the above?
More importantly, what if anything can I do?
They need me now more than ever but Shes adamant that "I'm
doing this on MY
own and looking after MY
I'm crestfallen/heartbroken/confused/hurt and I have absolutely no idea where to go from here. I've just lost not only my Future Wife and
Stepdaughter but the two most important Women of my 44 years on this Earth .
for me when I finish Work shortly.