I can't begin to tell you how sorry I am for all the suffering you and your daughter are going through. We have got an addict in our family, too and
coincidentally his name is "C" too. He's a good person who has done a lot of bad things to feed his addiction. He has severe deficits in his
intellect and violent tendencies from mental disorders so it's been challenging helping him without risking my own family. I won't talk about him
though, this is about your family.
I'm just a garden variety Christian woman wrestling with my own issues. I do ask God to help me and he does. But it's scary and life feels out of
control at that point right before I ask for help. I can almost, almost, imagine how scared your daughter is right now.
I sometimes get those premonition things like you've had. I came out with an odd declaration that air travel would change drastically and would not be
safe. This happened the night before 9-11. A lot of people got premonitions about that.
But I also get a lot of premonitions that don't come true. I reject them so violently and though something does come to pass, it is nothing horrible,
just significant but different.
I think this is where faith may come in. I know it feels hopeless but try with all your might to picture a wonderful future for C. Get her to try,
too. Start small or go big--follow your instincts. Every day, invest more faith in this wish of a bright future for her.
Because the alternate interpretation of your pronouncement is that C simply undergoes a radical change and epiphany. Or you do as a result of her
problems. Or you both do. It doesn't have to mean something bad. It was pretty vague and that's a good thing. Take that vagueness and think positive
Ask C if there's a dream she has for herself. Ask her to focus on it and imagine it happening. Imagine how it might go about happening like what
small steps she can take toward it.
Ask her a lot of questions. What authors she likes. What movies. What animals. Art, colors, automobiles...anything. Even if you already know the
answer, pretend it's all new. The point is to get her mind thinking. About aspects of life and the things that make it worth living. People don't
think much when they are told things. But they think if they are asked questions.
This is how I get my daughter to think and learn lessons. If I preach at her she just shuts me out. It's just a wall of words. If I set up the
scenario I want to discuss and ask her for her thoughts and opinions, then a real dialogue opens up. It's easier for us to influence each other when
we ask each other questions and get each other thinking.
So if there's some thing you really want to tell her, like that she's a light in the world and in your life, figure out a way to turn it into a
question so she answers in the statement you wanted to tell her in the first place.
For example you want her to really understand what she means to you and how much it would hurt to lose her.
So ask her "C, if you could see into my thoughts and feelings, what do you think you'd see about how I feel about you, and why?"
And ask her "if magic happened and we suddenly switched places and you were me, and I were you, but battling your addictions and feeling your
hopelessness, how would you help me?" What would you tell me?
And finally, ask her "if you could have anything from me now, what is it that you want?"
Your daughter is a beautiful light in a sometimes dark world. We all know there are cruel psychopathic people in the world abusing others. We need
good souls like her to balance out the truly evil people. If she doesn't fight for herself, that's going to be one less light for the world and that
would be a horrible shame. So ask her the questions to get her thinking and see that for herself. I'll be praying for you.
We all have weaknesses and flaws and burdens. Some are crueler to us than others. It's in striving to survive and overcome that a strong and
formidable person can arise. I pray your daughter will attain this strength. God bless you and your family.
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