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originally posted by: peck420
originally posted by: JadeStar
Ok. But like i said, it was hard not to because we were all friends and some of us even hung out together socially last year.
Were you expecting it to be easy?
I did ask them and they just kind of didn't have much to say they just sort of justified their actions/question by saying things were different under (old boss) so I asked them how but they really didn't have answers. That's why i asked the ones who were not presenting any issues.
So...are you not capable of being manager?
Their responses would have been enough to make a satisfactory decision. Employees that can not be honest with me, and me with them, have no spot in my business. I don't need to consult with my friends for that.
Yes but that's the 'nuclear option" one which then presents more problems than it might at first glance, solve.
What 'nuclear' option? You are allowing this by your uncertainty as the manager.
And from the reports from the old manager these guys are competent and good at what they do and overall i know them to be good people. things only changed this year.
Change is the only constant in life. The situation has changed, and their performance has changed. Act based on the now, not on the has been.
I don't. What i mean is, rather than feed such things as inequality and unfairness i'd rather feed their alternative by being aware of them so that I don't fall into the same patterns which leads to them.
You are not responsible for how people act. They are. If they choose to act in a manner that is unfitting of your office and team, remove them before it becomes cancerous to the whole.
Like I said, that's the nuclear option. The hardest thing to do is terminate someone and seeing as how i've only been able to do that for a short period of time and seeing as how these guys were fine with the other boss i'd rather look in the mirror at what i can do differently to help them be more comfortable with me than just drop them.
So you are going to spend more time psycho analyzing yourself than you will on the performance of you and the team under you?
Being the manager is not easy, and is never going to be. Don't make it harder than it has to be.
Finding good people is harder than maintaining a great team.
And preventing bad people from having an affect on a great teams is even harder.
originally posted by: NavyDoc
originally posted by: JadeStar
originally posted by: theabsolutetruth
a reply to: JadeStar
Perhaps try shifting the focus from you. A team incentive where all members have to work together as a team for a goal that is assessed individually, by their peers, and as a team with some sort of reward as an incentive can work wonders at getting an out of sync team member back on board and is reflective practice, perhaps tied into CPD and scheduled appraisals.
Great idea! We already have team bonuses but they come down from on high and there has not been one with me in this role yet. I can ask my boss if we can implement a new one.
Thanks SO MUCH for your answer!
One of he worse mistakes a new manager makes, especially if he was promoted within, is trying to be buddies with the staff. You can't be their buddy and their boss at the same time--it rarely works out. Set boundaries that define you as the boss immediately.
This can be done without being obnoxious.
originally posted by: JadeStar
originally posted by: NavyDoc
originally posted by: JadeStar
originally posted by: theabsolutetruth
a reply to: JadeStar
Perhaps try shifting the focus from you. A team incentive where all members have to work together as a team for a goal that is assessed individually, by their peers, and as a team with some sort of reward as an incentive can work wonders at getting an out of sync team member back on board and is reflective practice, perhaps tied into CPD and scheduled appraisals.
Great idea! We already have team bonuses but they come down from on high and there has not been one with me in this role yet. I can ask my boss if we can implement a new one.
Thanks SO MUCH for your answer!
One of he worse mistakes a new manager makes, especially if he was promoted within, is trying to be buddies with the staff. You can't be their buddy and their boss at the same time--it rarely works out. Set boundaries that define you as the boss immediately.
I've done that already and most understand that. It really is just 2 guys out of 10 people who work in sub teams of 5 each. Unfortunately the two were on the same sub team degrading the quality of it. So i split them up. I think this may have caused more issues though. I'd put them back on the same team but then I'd appear to be waffling.
This can be done without being obnoxious.
I know. I think I did this and my boss complimented me on it about two weeks ago but he is not yet aware of the two who have been a problem.
originally posted by: NavyDoc
originally posted by: JadeStar
originally posted by: NavyDoc
originally posted by: JadeStar
originally posted by: theabsolutetruth
a reply to: JadeStar
Perhaps try shifting the focus from you. A team incentive where all members have to work together as a team for a goal that is assessed individually, by their peers, and as a team with some sort of reward as an incentive can work wonders at getting an out of sync team member back on board and is reflective practice, perhaps tied into CPD and scheduled appraisals.
Great idea! We already have team bonuses but they come down from on high and there has not been one with me in this role yet. I can ask my boss if we can implement a new one.
Thanks SO MUCH for your answer!
One of he worse mistakes a new manager makes, especially if he was promoted within, is trying to be buddies with the staff. You can't be their buddy and their boss at the same time--it rarely works out. Set boundaries that define you as the boss immediately.
I've done that already and most understand that. It really is just 2 guys out of 10 people who work in sub teams of 5 each. Unfortunately the two were on the same sub team degrading the quality of it. So i split them up. I think this may have caused more issues though. I'd put them back on the same team but then I'd appear to be waffling.
This can be done without being obnoxious.
I know. I think I did this and my boss complimented me on it about two weeks ago but he is not yet aware of the two who have been a problem.
Well done.
Another trap is to take work/duties on yourself to appear "cool" and to hook someone up.
originally posted by: JadeStar
Thank you so much for that. What you say is similar to something my sister told me. She said "smile just enough to get them on side, but not too much that they take it the wrong way. be friendly but professional and don't be afraid to speak up and call them out when they do something wrong, assert yourself when necessary but always be friendly and approachable."
Meh, I say it really bugs me, but really I'm "one of the guys" to them, and we all give each other disparaging nicknames. "Ahou-kun" is one of my favorites.
originally posted by: MystikMushroom
a reply to: ScientificRailgun
I feel sorry for you, it's a cultural thing I take it.
Work Christmas parties? Company pick-nicks?
My feelings: "I don't like any of you at the office, so I'm not going waste my valuable free time with your outside the office"
Wow, that sounded grumpy.