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There's more of a argument that transphobes like yourself are actually life-threatening, ergo the government should force you to identify yourselves.
A deformity at birth does not define us, our minds do.
Oh, yes, your callous double standard where you trivialized the suicide of a young transgendered woman, and blamed her for the act.
Nevermind that I've never heard of such a thing even happening... usually the phobe loses his # and attacks the woman.
usually the phobe loses his # and attacks the woman.
Bollocks, to you, I say. There's nothing further to discuss.
originally posted by: solarjetman
There are two issues that have been on my mind for some time that I just can't figure out, and I know if I posted this anywhere else I would be immediately vilified and labeled a bigot. I concede the following two questions come from a place of pure ignorance, and may likely even piss off and/or hurt feelings... but I would genuinely like to understand some things. My mind is an empty canvas and I promise my intentions are pure. End of disclaimer, here goes...
1. One argument folks generally make for LGBT rights is to let them be, they aren't bothering you, they aren't hurting you etc. which I totally understand in issues like gay marriage. They like what they like and can't help that; I get that. The thing with a transgender female (previously male), however, is, they COULD potentially hurt me as a straight male, who is attracted to women and repulsed by intimacy with men. If I dated a woman and kissed or got remotely intimate, and found out later that she had a sex change when she was 6 years old-- similar to the story currently floating around-- I would be FURIOUS to say the least. I would feel deeply violated and upset. So I guess my question is: once you go through the full transition, what comes next in terms of sexual expression? Do you look for a straight male partner (like most other women)? Because it's my biological disposition to be repulsed by the thought of intimacy with a trans woman. Just as you can't help your feelings, I can't help mine...maybe some other straight guys beg to differ, but that's how I personally am wired, end of story.
2. When a two-year-old tells their parents that they feel like they're trapped inside another gender's body (which happened), could it be that perhaps society's crude gender roles need a deep examination rather than calling it an error in nature? I remember a study somewhere saying that little boys tend to actually be as emotional as little girls up until a certain age, when societal cues tell them all sorts of crap they must adhere to. I personally am equally annoyed by the hyper-masculine ideology of "manning up", sucking up emotions and never crying-- things like that-- as I am by the "girls belong in the kitchen" attitude, and strongly believe the world would be a MUCH better place if it were socially acceptable for men to feel more emotional and women to run things. In other words, if a little boy would rather play with dolls than trucks, maybe THAT should be okay and we instead break down patriarchal gender roles rather than questioning the predefined gender he associates with the most? Now, I know there's obviously much more to deciding to transition than that, but that seems to be the story that blogs and news always run with, so I'm trying to see how deep that really goes (for a two-year-old no less).
Any THOUGHTFUL replies here would be quite appreciated. Please resist the temptation to act like this is Facebook and drop a nifty one-liner for infinite stars-- that's too easy and neutralizes any opportunity for meaningful dialogue. There are fewer and fewer places around where you can discuss sensitive social issues so freely, so for my sake and others, help keep it that way!
originally posted by: AlongCamePaul
a reply to: Darth_Prime
Sexuality is a metal state... The physical reality of things is they were born a certain way, and although due to science we have been able to change the physical nature of things, there still exists on a chromosomal level the truth of the situation. Therefore claiming to be anything other than what you are born is a form of deception no matter what you felt you were or what you feel you are.
I do believe I have accurately described the difference between sexuality and gender. Thanks Darth.
originally posted by: Bayne
a reply to: JadeStar
In answer to your question, well that will depend a lot. There's a growing number of Trans and Intersex people transitioning in Academia, i know several who are Professors at Universities who've made significant contributions before transition (in one Intersex friends case her body changed all on it's own whether she wanted it or not). You'd need to find a way of determining how bad the glass ceiling(s) you'd face for being Trans in the area you think you can get far in will be and try and gauge the relative value of being out. If you come out now and there's not any/many other Trans people out around you, that could inspire others and it could result in you having to struggle against discrimination or just becoming a de-facto spokesperson taking time and energy away from your work.
We also don't know how much time there is, acceptance is accelerating, but if sexism is anything to go by rapid gains will be made but full practical equality may still take a long time. So there's no way to be sure if by the time you have achieved greatness there wouldn't be much impact left from coming out or if it will still make a difference.
That isn't an easy call to make. And you do have a right to privacy.
As i have pointed out to others though, you can do a lot for other Trans person just by being a good ally. Closeted or stealth Trans people will still encounter cis people who are transphobic or systemic issues that discriminate against Trans people. And you can watch for any opportunities where you could, if you chose to, come out to maximum impact later in life.
If you can support other Trans people as you go, helping other Trans people get through school, enter the field behind you and have safety and support as they study and go for work, that might be the most powerful thing you could do, and you don't need to be out personally to do that. Instead even if stealth you might help 10 out people get through those glass ceilings behind you, giving 10 times the impact your personal coming out now could provide.