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You are comparing 18 years to one DUI...
What if that man got a DUI every year, how much money do you think that would cost him?
Also, after 3 DUI's he would be sitting in a cell, so think the cost skyrockets then..
originally posted by: mOjOm
a reply to: ghostrager
Yah, or he could be more responsible for his actions. Wear a condom. Don't stick your manhood in whatever becomes available without thinking. There are worse things than having a kid that can result when you don't know who you're screwing.
[SNIP] take care of your business on your own.
Stop blaming a woman as if getting an abortion is such a easy way out. The man had his chance to do something about it too, but he blew it and now that is her only choice. That or have a child from a one night stand with some loser who can't take care of his own junk.
As far as the OP, the OP act as if the female doesn't pay nothing at all. That 93k (over a period of 18-23 years), does not cover ALL the expenses of raising a child. It won't put that kid in College, and even worse- the Mother may not get it at all.
Honestly- your whole post reeks to me of someone who actually has no real idea of what child support is or how it REALLY works in practice.
If you want a lesson on it, let me know. My child support story will blow your mind.
So you are jaded...
Explains a lot. Sorry your ex screwed you, that is not cool at all.
A word to the wise for those who might have to pay it. Keep the courts out of it and keep it between the two of you or you'll both be getting screwed out of the deal.
You are also describing a dead beat dad in your scenario, the woman can't just block the dad from being a part of the child's life unless she can show he is unfit.
originally posted by: Kangaruex4Ewe
How about acting like an adult and making adult decisions not to do either while intoxicated because both actions can have dire effects that affect more than just themselves... Sometimes for lifetimes?!?