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originally posted by: TrappedPrincess Its just that I kind of run into this even within my own community their is a certain degree of separation of those that have had the surgery versus those that have not.
In my experience I have never heard someone post-op say directly that they are somehow better but some of the language used by some does seem to come off as condescending or exclusive not that I really care. I guess I'm just frustrated because it seems like you have to have the surgery to be taken seriously as a woman and without it your just some abomination.
But yeah, the usage of SRS as some sort of confirmation of gender is pretty tiresome, I agree with you there.
originally posted by: Cuervo
I didn't even realize we were referring to you, hah!
An important thing I've learned about dysphoria is that my experience is not universal. Some people experience it as a social aspect and simply need to live as the correct gender and, for others (like me), it's more of an anatomical issue and SRS is a priority and socializing as a woman is lower on my needs list. I definitely don't think it applies universally like I used to.
EKron, your experience in this is invaluable for the community and I think part of the value is seeing a woman who's left it all in the past. It's encouraging. So please don't ever feel bad for your distancing.
originally posted by: marg6043
a reply to: Krazysh0t
Is one problem with this, a person that is going through sex change can not sing in in the military while in transition and I don't see this particular cases been allowed in the military for now.
You either a male or female when signing in, is not such thing as in between, I guess they will allow already people that has their sex change and gender to join but no when the change is on going.
originally posted by: TrappedPrincess
See this is exactly the kind of mentality that worries me. It seems like people can accept and tolerate those that have went the distance and had the surgery more than they can the "in the middle" people. I don't mean you personally so don't take this the wrong way. Its just that I kind of run into this even within my own community their is a certain degree of separation of those that have had the surgery versus those that have not.
In my experience I have never heard someone post-op say directly that they are somehow better but some of the language used by some does seem to come off as condescending or exclusive not that I really care. I guess I'm just frustrated because it seems like you have to have the surgery to be taken seriously as a woman and without it your just some abomination. I don't plan on having the surgery because of the A. the cost, B. the post surgery maintenance required, C. any major surgery has risks of complication. So I guess I'll never be considered a true woman despite how pretty and sweet I am. Oh well I guess, I'm comfortable with who I am and don't need one label or another to feel validated.
a reply to: marg6043
originally posted by: NavyDoc
Fascinating. So there is bigotry within the all accepting GLBTQ community?