When we moved in to this area my daughter and another girl became the target of a paedophile, people in our community spotted the same car going up
and down and stopping near the girls, now the kids were no more than 30ft from our door and we all looked out for our kids so this man got noticed.
The Police were called and given the data like the car number plate and they told us that the man was known to them but not for paedophilia but
refused to say what it was for, they said they would have a talk with him and that would be it. 2 days later he turns up with a mate in a different
car, I shouted in the block that he was back and he stopped near my daughter who was just outside the door with me watching her. I saw red and dashed
to the car to hurt him but was pulled back by other parents because they thought I was going to get myself in serious trouble, which I was and then a
parent said to me "Paul, if you hurt him its you they will do and that means Serena is in harms way" or words that contained multiple swear words.
The Police were called and told that if he comes back we WILL take the law in to our own hands...
He was not seen again but the Police response was weak to say the least, community spirit saved my daughter and the other girl he was stalking, not
Which leads me to present day roughly, Serena my daughter has just been released from hospital after 8.5 months for an eating disorder and as anyone
who has experienced a person with an eating disorder there's a shed load of mental issues that go with it. Serena was an A+ patient and regained both
weight and dealt with many of the issues, she's no way 100% but the self harm etc has long stopped and she's pretty comfortable. Because she had
problems with bullying at her old school she was found a special unit which deals with all sorts of teens with issues, in this case most were truants
or expelled for bad behaviour so we were concerned as she's a shy bright girl but easily picked on. Serena went to the unit for a number of weeks and
seemed down when she got home, we asked if anything was wrong and she said no. Sadly she was keeping a secret that she told her psychologist about who
in turn asked her to tell us because it was so extreme, it seems that she was in a class with a lad who thought it was fun to tease her at first, now
the teachers were supposed to follow the students to and from classes because they were only small classes and it was to avoid any bad behaviour.
Unfortunately the lad started trying to hold her hand, this went to touching her on the shoulder which in turn went to grabbing her from behind and
touching her chest when the teacher was not looking. Serena felt very intimidated as the lad was bigger than her, he also started standing at the
bottom of the stairs as Serena went up so he could try and look up her dress but Serena wore shorts underneath so he could not see anything. Next he
kissed her on the head which Serena warned him about but was still afraid and then he suggested walking to the bus stop with her but going a
'different' way which Serena refused to do and that is when we found all this out as it was distressing her so much. I sat with her and said "You MUST
tell the head NOW, you have to make it stop and its better you do it but I will be calling them later. She did it as I found out when I rang but the
schools response shocked me, they apologised a great deal that he had done this and was not escorted like he should have been but that he was , get
this, "naive" and very sorry for what he did and they wanted us to actually almost feel sorry for him. I exploded and said that could they not see the
pattern that was forming, he was getting more sexual, touchy and wanted to take her to a place away from the school and it was obvious he would have
assaulted her. They said he had been talked to and would no longer be in that part of the school, I wasn't happy but the whole issue was upsetting
Serena who asked me to drop it and as long as he wasn't allowed near her it was ok.
So come her open day weeks later we saw her teacher and head, it became clear that the school had NOT told his parents about what had happened which
infuriated me and it soon became clear it was because the boy was Muslim and they were worried about it getting complicated. I told them my in laws
are Muslim but they don't go around sexually assaulting people and If the parent was not told I'd call the Police as his son could go on to do more of
this so the parents should know.
A week later I bumped in to the parent who was clearly a very Radical Muslim, I said I hope you have talked to your son as this was serious and he
replied "his son would never have done this and my daughter was to blame", I broke the man's jaw and was arrested but the case was dropped by the
The point of the post, one, don't expect too much help from the right places if this happens to your child and be careful that you don't go overboard
otherwise the authorities will be more than happy to do YOU and not the parent or pervert.
I snapped but got some justice for Serena but you are better on the outside of prison looking after them than inside...
edit on 13-7-2015 by
Mclaneinc because: (no reason given)